Dating & Relationships Advice for Men
Jeremy Soul shows off his Day Game skills on Aftenbladet TV in Sweden
Watch as Jeremy Soul does what he’s best known for as he stops beautiful women on the streets of Sweden. Also included are commentaries and live discussion with one of the women!
Hey All,
Any idea how girls feel about approaching guys? A journalist from SF Weekly covered my recent sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco, and proposed we turn the tables and look for girls who would be interested in some dating coaching. Starlight posted this blog about what we found out.
Jeremy Soul
Girl Game
So, last weekend Soul, Bonsai and I ran a sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco. SF Weekly sent out a camera crew and female reporter to cover the event, which was fun in the sense that sometimes girls would see the photographer’s lens poking out of the bushes while we were in set in Union Square!
Anyhow, after the event ended, over a few drinks, the reporter threw out the idea: “Hey, how about we put up a Twitter alert for 6 girls looking to improve their love lives with a few professional dating coaches?”
Hmm…coach girls on how to approach & open guys? Sounds fun. A whole new storyline for SF Weekly to play with. And the chance to put a lot of brainstorming with Soul and Whim to work.
So we showed up in the Marina at 8p to meet the 6 lucky ladies.
There was a tall blond personal trainer looking to meet potential mates outside of her profession, a twentysomething Asian advertising exec that just loathed being approached by guys…but yearned to meet new people and build connections in neutral territory before even broaching intimacy.
We sat outside under the clear night sky and heat lamps, getting a feel for all of there relationship lives of late. A lot of interesting stuff came up.
Most men are interested in dating science because they want to get better at interacting with beautiful women. Whether your goal is to land a playboy model, or to start dating that cute barista at Starbucks, you need to learn how to sexually progress. Otherwise, you are likely to get the all too familiar “let’s just be friends”. Unfortunately, most men are afraid to act out on their sexual desires, and the result is that they never push any boundaries with women. This causes their game to plateau below their potential, leaving the best opportunities to those willing to push the limits.
A good parallel is with an athlete trying to improve their skills. I have a friend who white water kayaks, and he was telling me about his adventures. If he never paddled rapids out of his comfort zone, he would still be kayaking on dinky one foot waves. Instead, he goes out with friends that he can learn from, and makes sure he paddles a section of the river that is just a little bit out of his comfort zone. That way he can improve his skills, while making sure he doesn’t end up in the hospital. Now when he goes white water kayaking, the dangers are real – but he takes constant, yet small steps to take things up a notch. Not surprisingly, the worst thing that has happened to him is a pulled muscle.
In comparison, if you are too afraid to leave your comfort zone while learning to meet women of quality, you will find that the quality of women you approach is always low (i.e. your version of the dinky one foot wave). It’s safe but not very fun, and you will never improve.
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Official site: Project Rockstar
What is Project Rockstar?
Project Rockstar is a unique life coaching program sponsored by www.lovesystems.com for six carefully selected participants from around the world to train for six weeks in London & Stockholm with dating coaches, pick-up artists, fitness trainers, entrepreneurs, and other self-help experts in Europe and internationally.
The program is being run by Jeremy Soul, Love Systems’ Chief Day Game Instructor, recently voted No. 8 Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world by TSB Magazine. Mr M, Director of Love Systems Europe, originally founded Project Rockstar in 2008, and will act as consultant to the project this year.
The aim of Project Rockstar is to transform six specially selected men and women into true “Social Masters” and showcase how dating science can lead to the achievement of the truly aspirational Rockstar lifestyle. It is sponsored by www.lovesystems.com, the world leader in dating science.
The project is based on cutting-edge concepts of interpersonal change, self-help, NLP and social dynamics – including, but not limited to “The Game”, Social Circle Mastery, Inner Game, achievement psychology, networking technology and other aspects of dating and lifestyle science. While it is true that participants will achieve the highest levels of dating skill, the aim of the program is to go beyond this and for participants to achieve a truly aspirational lifestyle which involves both significant interpersonal change and lifestyle mastery.
The six-week project will blend seminars, theory sessions, homework assignments and live, in-field coaching in the social arts (largely, the ability to attract the opposite sex, but also networking and social circle building). Love Systems normally charges thousands of dollars for this kind of training (and for a six-week program, the cost would easily run into tens of thousands of dollars), but this particular project is run free of charge. However, applicants must be selected for participation and must be able to fund themselves for the duration of the training.
This year will also be the first year that we train women to be Rockstars as well as men. It is our goal to transform selected female applicants into Social Masters of love, sex and relationships, as well as have female dating coaches teaching on the program for the first time ever.
Project Rockstar 2009
If you didn’t read about last year’s Project Rockstar, you can search the official blog to see what you missed out on.
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No date this year? Time you brushed up on your “womenthink.” FHM’s graphical analysis shows you what your brain is doing and how you can use scientifically-proven techniques to increase your success with women.
1. Humour.
FHM always plays hardball with women who claim to want a man with ‘a sense of humour’ and not money or killer abs. The truth is that girls are attracted to funny men – but not because underneath the endless feuds with work colleagues, chicks are all a good laugh really. “Being able to share laughter and induce it in others might seem frivolous, but it’s not,” says Nick Savoy of Love Systems dating. “It creates social bonds and triggers positive emotions.” Essentially, not only do funny men make women ‘feel good,’ they have that all-important social currency. Self-deprecating humour also implies status, as you’re confident enough to take the piss out of yourself.
2. Names.
Having a conventional name helps women attract more men. Girls called Sarah, Emma, Lucy, Kate and Laura received disproportionately more attention on noted dating site mysinglefriend.com. So go for girls with crazy names – they’re grateful, like fat ones. The most popular men’s names with women are Ben, Ed, Mark, Tom and Chris. Which sounds like a university hockey team.
3. Height.
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Hey Guys,
More media coverage on Day Game… check out this story in Swedish… there’s also a TV piece.
Cheers,
Jeremy Soul
Jeremy Soul Tells a Swedish Newspaper that He Can Help Anyone Get a Girl
Major Swedish newspaper Aftonbladet interviews Jeremy Soul on his pick up and teaching techniques.
Today Jeremy Soul teaches the art of dating. As a school boy back in England he was very shy. “Only when I was 18 did I become able to talk to girls. Now I think of it as any other skill. Just like you can go to a gym to get stronger, you can train your social ability.”
Jeremy Soul is a pickup pro
“A life companion or an amorous adventure – you can get what you want within six months.”
Jeremy Soul, 26, is an expert at dating, especially in the daytime.
“Not to be arrogant, but I can help all men – except those who aren’t ready to make a change.”
Jeremy Soul works for an American company arranging workshops and seminars where he teaches men to become “successful” with women.
“We teach the whole spectrum; it’s not at all just about getting laid. Some of our clients want a wife, others are virgins and have never been on a date, and some meet women but want to meet other types of women,” Jeremy Soul says.
Many advantages
His own specialty is “daytime dating” which may sound like a small niche. But according to Jeremy Soul it’s about finding new “hunting grounds.”
“The traditional way of getting together is through friends, at work or at clubs and bars. And that can be very limiting.”
There’s also another great advantage
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Hey Guys,
Anders van Dahl of P4 (Norway’s national radio) recently invited me for an interview on Day Game. What started out as a discussion turned into live coaching, and with my assistance Anders approached women in the daytime on the streets of Oslo for the first time!
Read the English transcript here or listen to the audio (Norwegian) on the Love Systems YouTube channel.
Jeremy Soul.
Part 1
Anders: Already on the way out of P4’s offices down towards Oslo’s busiest shopping street, my entrails are close to turning inside out from anguish and panic. In the middle of the busiest morning rush, with busy and preoccupied people heading full speed towards their targets, this 1.7m tall, suited Brit of Indian origin is going to teach me about something very un-Norwegian: being sober, picking up anybody on the street and getting a date.
Jeremy’s magic formula isn’t really rocket science, but seems simple and viable, at least in theory.
Jeremy Voiceover: I stop them and say ”Excuse me, I just saw you walking past, and I had to come tell you that I think you look absolutely beautiful.”
Anders: I know that it’s slightly less than ten minutes until I am going to try this, and attempt to explain to Jeremy that there are some hopeless cases beyond saving.
Jeremy Voicever: I mean, some people naturally have the intuition and the ability to pick up someone. Some people don’t naturally have it. That’s my experience.
Anders: To demonstrate, he asks me to pick someone random, and I immediately lay eyes upon a young, pretty, classically blond Norwegian girl, around 1.70 m, across the street. She’s busily running up the stairs carrying a hot coffee, with a laptop bag over her shoulders. My chest hurts, I get red, sweat, and with a terrible taste in my mouth I watch Jeremy do his approach and introduce himself. First comes a slight tap on her shoulder.
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As the holidays come to an end and the New Year rolls around, we’re all faced with the same thing: we want more from our lives.
If you haven’t got your dating life sorted out yet, you need to take action now. If you don’t, every time you see a beautiful woman walk past you and you don’t say anything to her, the regret will eat away at your soul.
The biggest mistake that men make with women is not having a game plan. You need a game plan for dating as for everything else in life. So let’s look at some pointers for getting better at dating this year.
1. Figure out exactly what your ideal dating life is. I meet clients every week who tell me they want to get good with women, but I ask them, “What does that mean to you?”
For some, it means sleeping with a variety of women in low-commitment relationships. For some, it means finding that one, special girl. For some, it just means being able to approach any woman they want, anywhere and anytime.
Figure it out and write it down. Stick in on your wall. Write it on your iPhone. Find some way to keep it at the forefront of your mind as what you’re working towards on a daily basis.
2. Devise a strategy to achieve those goals. In order to achieve your ultimate goal, you need to figure out a good route there.
If you want more women in your life, then you’ll need to be making lots of approaches. If it’s higher quality women or that special girl you’re after, then you need to be screening more thoroughly for girlfriend criteria. If it’s a certain type of situation you like to meet women in (whether it’s the daytime, a bar or a social event), then figure out a plan to get into these situations as often as possible.
When I decided to get good with women, I realized I would need to be going out a lot to do it. I rented an apartment right in the centre of town, figured out the local day and nightspots that were full of good-looking women, and started going to them regularly.
3. Seek Mentors. You need people who are better with women than you to guide you.
Hey All,
Results are in… I’ve been voted 2009’s Number 8 Best Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world!
A huge thanks to everyone who took the time and voted for me. This acknowledgment keeps the motivation high to continue pushing boundaries, developing new methods and changing lives in 2010!
A shout out goes to Braddock, also voted in the Top 10. Keep up the good work, buddy.
And keep watch for my new book ‘Daytime Dating’, out soon.
Cheers,
Jeremy Soul.
Hey guys,
A while ago Mark W blogged about his travelling experiences and promised a Part 2. Here it is…
Jeremy Soul.
How Travelling Helps You with Girls
Back in August, Soul and I were discussing travelling and how it helps your game. I have been fortunate enough to do quite a bit of travelling while I was at University, but this was before I knew about game. In 2009, my game has exploded – thanks mainly to hanging out with Mr M, Braddock, Daxx and of course Soul. Earlier this year I quit my well paying office job in the UK and bought a one-way ticket to Asia, without too much of a plan. Since then I’ve learned more about game, and people in general, than I could ever have imagined. My goal in this article is to share some of my experiences and encourage you to get out there and see the world for yourself.
What is travelling actually like?
Like I said in my previous article, when I’m talking about travelling, I am referring to extended trips usually with a backpack and very small budget. This isn’t about gaming girls on vacation at Spring Break or anything like that. This year, my stomping grounds have mostly been around South East Asia – Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, Malaysia and Singapore. These countries are great to travel around, even with a limited budget. Transport is easy and, for the most part, everything is very safe.
You stay in hostels or guesthouses (budget hotels), usually for less than $10 per night. This is not 5 star, in fact it usually isn’t any stars! Some hostels have kitchens where you can cook your own food. Depending on which part of the world you are in, it may be cheaper just to eat at restaurants all the time. In Asia this is certainly the case! A local meal can cost 50cents and a burger with fries is usually $2 or more. Generally speaking beer is very cheap, and often very strong, so pace yourself!
You can spend the daytime doing any number of activities from scuba diving to bungee jumping. There are hundreds of amazing tourist sites that you can check out as well. I have been fortunate enough to visit some truly amazing places, however travelling is so much more than this. I remember going to see the Great Wall of China, which was great. However, I went out that night in Beijing with some really cool people and had a blast. For me, the night out was better than the Wall. It is this social aspect of travelling that really can propel your game to the next level.
Why it helps your game
At home, most of us have jobs and other commitments that keep us busy. Even if your workplace is a very sociable environment, it can’t compare to travelling. Being in social situations almost 24/7 really changes how your behaviours and more importantly, your confidence. I used to like having a few hours at home just to chill, but recently I’ve noticed that I now avoid doing this as much as possible in favour of hanging out with friends. It also means that I’m constantly in that social mood and I no longer have to “turn it on” when I go into a bar.
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