Life With Soul

Toronto is awesome for daytime dating

Today I want to share with you guys an awesome email exchange I had with a recent client from the Day Game Workshop I just ran in Toronto, Canada. I love staying in touch with clients, especially when I hear how hard they’ve been working on themselves and their dating lives.

Ravi (aka Stormboy on The Attraction Forums) was a great client – he was genuine, respectful of people, down to earth and acted when needed to act. I know he was super nervous taking the workshop with me and the thought of doing daytime approaches on random women petrified him. But when I asked him to do something, he went and did it, regardless of what emotions he felt inside. The mark of a successful man: he was willing to take action when he needed to. Check out the full day game review here.

I completely relate to where Ravi is right now. I remember having all these feelings a few years ago. I love the work I do because it allows people the make the same journey that I have – hopefully a lot faster and learning even more along the way than I did. Here’s the original email he sent me (copied with his permission) and my response.

Hey Jeremy!

I just had to email you and tell you about the scariest approach I ever did! Man all I did was approach the girl. I went to the food court to get lunch and I saw this really pretty girl having lunch with another girl and seven other guys! They looked like co-workers because they wore the same uniform.

One of my female co-workers was with me and I told her I am going to approach that girl! She was like no… she thought I was joking. When my co-worker realised I was serious she started feeling nervous herself!

Man, I was scared shitless. Heart thumping and hands shaking and knowing there was no turning back, I slowly approached their table and looked at her with passion and said with a very passionate voice, “Excuse me, I know this awkward of me, but my god, I have to tell you that you are absolutely lovely.”

I am not joking but her eyes widened and her face lit up and everyone on the table stopped eating and went silent. I was lost for words. I then introduced myself and shook her hand… and left.

I know I did not transition or continue the conversation because I was shaking like hell, but the fact I did an approach that was so scary and made her day like that was unbelievable. I felt totally satisfied that I had the balls to do an approach like that: all her co-workers were shocked!

That was like 30 minutes ago and I am still shaking. I couldn’t even eat lunch properly! But I know with time and practice I can take myself far.

My female co-worker cannot stop speaking about it and told another female worker about it. They are just amazed and surprised that there are men who can actually do this. They said in their wildest dreams this has never happened to them.

But all thanks to you. I know you are busy but I just had to take the time to tell you this! Thank you for the knowledge that made this possible!

Ravi

Ravi,

It makes me really proud to read your email. I’m so glad you did that approach. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t follow up or whatever: you had the stones to do what most men could never do. Well done.

Let me tell you a similar thing that happened to me. A couple of years ago, I was really good when I was out specifically to practice daytime dating, but I couldn’t do it spontaneously, e.g. on my lunch break. Then one lunchtime at work I saw this beautiful Chinese girl on the other side of the street.

I swallowed my pride and ran over to her, opened her and a few minutes later was walking away with her phone number. I remember being so nervous about it that I was literally shaking when I got back to work. It was a scary, but exhilarating feeling.

Things like that don’t scare me nearly as much these days. Now, changing my life, falling in love, meeting a kind of woman I’ve never met before etc. are things that thrill me. Remember that nervousness is almost an identical feeling to excitement! Treasure that feeling my man.

You are right to believe in yourself. I will tell you from the perspective of someone who NEVER thought he would ever get a decent girlfriend, let alone sleep with or love as many amazing women as I have: if you continue to work hard, years from now you will have to pinch yourself when you realise that your dreams of love, sex and romance have come true.

Keep up the good work brother.

Jeremy Soul