Learn to Feel Good when you Meet Women
Get a Navy Seal team for Meeting Women
My good buddy LA2NY, one of the Love Systems guys in LA who’s likely to become an official Love Systems coach this year, wrote this excellent article that explains more about how to get into a good state (or flow) when you’re out to meet women.
The Dichotomy of State Control
I had some comments to make, so I’ve copied those below (normally these Lounge articles are only for our Bootcamp and Day Game Workshop alumni, but I’ve made an exception here because I really wanted to share this information with everyone).
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Great post man. You covered a lot of good points, but there’s two that I’ll add.
1. Tweak your environment
In their book Switch, Chip and Dan Heath talk about tweaking one’s environment (what they call “Shaping the Path” to enable you to act logically and emotionally the way you want to as easily as possible.
Environmental factors contribute hugely to our internal chemistry (brain and body) and also in part determine the reactions we get from other people (which further feed back into our internal chemistry).
One huge reason I moved to Stockholm is that there simply weren’t enough beautiful women in London. It meant that whenever I met a 10, it was “unusual” for me because I didn’t see them often; as such, it altered my internal chemistry in a way I didn’t like. Moving to Stockholm corrected that problem, because I was constantly surrounded by beautiful women (and 10s were a lot more common) so it stopped affected my internal chemistry as much.
(FYI cool article on beautiful women affecting body chemistry here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/news…cientists.html)
It’s also another reason I do so much Daytime Dating. My body chemistry and state tend to be a lot more balanced in a way I can leverage for seduction in quieter environments.
The point I’m making is that tweaking your environment is a huge way to achieve better state control.
2. Build a Navy Seal team
Over the years, as I’ve gone out more and more, I’ve discovered that going out is not all about women for me. It’s about having a good time, generally. Although yes, women factor into that, another factor is the friends and company I keep around me.
If you’ve ever seen a group of Love Systems Coaches who know each other really well and have a history together hanging out at a party or a bar together, you know what I’m talking about.
There’s a synergy there that achieves greater cumulative effect than if we were each to go out by ourselves and try to pull. Part of that is specific techniques and strategies that work better as a Navy Seal team than a lone wolf, but part of that is also the way it affects our internal body chemistry (our state).
I even get this in Daytime Dating. The last few weeks when I was in Sydney, just working from Starbucks on my laptop with Whim and Calabrese would incite me to do daytime approaches on women walking in and out of the café; by myself, I would still sometimes do it, but only if the woman was truly smoking hot and I could be bothered to get up out of my seat and put in the energy to actually be social.
So the lesson: surround yourself with good people you love.
I found the following in a study guide for 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
“The habits are designed, when you put them in practice, to help you mature as a person. This process of maturing is described below:
Dependence >> Independence >> Interdependence
We all start out life as babies completely dependent on our parents or other person to take care of us. This is a state of weakness and powerlessness.
As we grow up we work to become independent, moving out of our parent’s home, earning money for ourselves, etc. A person at this level is able to do things for himself and does not need anyone else to survive.
The greatest human achievements come from people working at the third level, interdependence. This is when people work together to achieve a common goal, and is the level of maturity of many people in a mature society or organization. This is how mankind has achieved things together that no single person could do alone.
Interdependence is the state of human development of greatest maturity and power.
As we develop our character as people, we grow in each of the seven areas described by the seven habits. In this process we move up the chart from dependence to independence to interdependence.”
Jeremy Soul