Try getting Eye Contact before you Approach

When I began my journey to become better around beautiful women, I didn’t know what to say when approaching women I didn’t know (i.e. doing a “cold approach”). Now that I’ve been at it for over five years, I’m at the point where I’m quite comfortable around beautiful women, and rarely have trouble thinking about what to say.

This “what to say” issue is less of a problem when it comes to warm approaches. A warm approach is when you meet a woman that is part of your social circle. A friend might introduce you, or she may even introduce herself to you. One advantage of warm approaches is that you don’t have to convince her that you’re normal, safe, and not creepy. Being in the same social circle provides an immediate basic comfort level.

There is also less attraction work for you to do, since good status within the social circle already gives you social value. This is opposed to cold approach, where you have to build your social value from scratch.

For years, dating experts have talked about these two kinds of approaches – cold and warm. I think this needs to be expanded. Lately, I have been working on a way to warm up cold approaches to improve my success rate. I’ve dubbed this the “lukewarm approach”.

If a beautiful woman and I are static, or walking past each other slowly, I will engage in eye contact and make it clear that her beauty moves me. I will maintain eye contact a little longer than is typically polite for a stranger to look at another person.

Then I will judge her reaction to see if she is open to an approach. If she looks back and smiles, stares straight back at me, or looks down a little bit and smiles, then I will approach. Basically, I am looking for any sign that she is pleased with me checking her out. A bad sign is when she looks up and away, almost rolling her eyes.

This way I can screen better – if I don’t get a good reaction I’m less likely to approach. Only if she is absolutely gorgeous, or if I’m looking for a challenge will I approach.  When I get a good reaction though, I always approach

Not everyone is single. This way I can filter out women that want to be approached. I waste less time speaking to women with boyfriends.

This technique can be used in all situations, but I particularly like to do this in cafés, since it’s a quiet setting. Next time you’re in a café and spot a beautiful woman, give it a try!

Happy lovin’

Jeremy Soul

This is what my workload currently looks like

I’m changing the way I blog and keep people updated via my Jeremy Soul facebook account (and at some point in the next few months, I’ll probably get into twitter properly too). I’ve become a big fan of Gary Vaynerchuk, who advocates being really passionate about your business and what you do, and expressing that fully and openly to people.

He makes a lot of good points (and I even pitched to him to be a business mentor for Project Rockstar – no dice this year, but as always, who knows what the future brings). One thing I’ve think I’ve gotten partially from him, but also kinda realised myself, is that good dating and good relationships – whether they’re with family, friends, lovers, partners, colleagues or even all you guys as readers, fans, followers and clients – require honest communication.

Writing this blog, articles, doing podcasts, interviews etc. is partly about marketing. I am trying to spread the message about what I can do and hopefully change the course of my life as well as anyone else who’s willing to listen and “join the conversation”.

But that doesn’t mean all that marketing can’t be honest and show a truly real side of me. I feel the same about seduction and dating as I do about marketing: honesty and integrity pays out in the long run. I’ve met many, many successful people in all fields of life, from dating experts to businessmen to celebrities, in the last few years. From my experiences, I’ve learned two things:

1. Having integrity can benefit your life hugely in the long run.

2. Running my business or my dating life without integrity, even if it were to bring me “success”, would not make me happy. I would hate the process.

Screwing other people over, lying, cheating and manipulating others to get a few short-term results? No, thank you.

I feel very strongly about this issue. Years ago, I felt so strongly about this that I went against the grain of almost the entire seduction industry (and in particular, a few popular seduction gurus of that time) by asserting that being direct and honest when you went to talk to women could work; in fact, that it could be better, and even more powerful than the artificial lines, pretexts and ploys that many men have historically used to meet women.

People challenged me and no one believed in the power of being direct or in the power of daytime dating. Now, I get recognised in clubs and streets all over the world by Jeremy Soul followers who cottoned on to what I was doing (and I am still a sucker for attention and praise – so do feel free to introduce yourself if you see me somewhere!) and the current in the seduction industry (and particularly within Love Systems) has shifted towards being more direct and honest. Now people believe what I believed and acted on five years ago: being a gentleman is one of the most powerful ways to enrich your love life.

If it’s true with love and sex, I believe it to be true with business as well. If you treat people well, you build potentially synergistic relationships that will continue to offer value to you in the future. If you treat people badly (or if you “act like a d*ck”), then you may get a short-term gain, but you screw yourself over in the long run.

I don’t want to get all sciencey on everyone (maybe not all of my readers are as into biology and psychology as much as I am), but this is basically the evolutionary basis for altruism (which is a fancy word for “being nice to other people”). Anyone wanting to find out more about this, check out the research done on the Prisoner’s Dilemma (wikipedia it!).

Without going into tons of detail right now (and perhaps I will in a later blog post – when it’s not 1am on a Saturday night/Sunday morning), this year so far for me has been a huge series of sucker punches and curveballs. A lot of stuff I didn’t expect to happen, happened, not least of which being my father’s health taking a sudden turn for the worse.

When that happened, and I finally found time to process the learnings over my last 3-month world tour (Europe, USA and Australia) running Daytime Dating workshops, the power of relationships and the importance of family dawned on me. The relationships we have with our parents are literally the first relationships we ever develop. Beyond a genetic link and genetic self-interest, there’s also a shared history we have with them that is very difficult for any other relationship to match.

Which brings me to another point: at the end of the day, isn’t it all about creating that history? About building memories and experiences? And ultimately, don’t those memories and experiences almost always involve other people in some way?

Look, don’t get me wrong. Money is important, status is cool, adrenaline is fun, but ultimately, whatever you’re doing, you need other people to help you do it, and whatever you end up enjoying, you want to enjoy it with other people.

I found some great notes on the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People recently that said this:

We all start out life as babies completely dependent on our parents or other person to take care of us. This is a state of weakness and powerlessness.

As we grow up we work to become independent, moving out of our parent’s home, earning money for ourselves, etc. A person at this level is able to do things for himself and does not need anyone else to survive.

The greatest human achievements come from people working at the third level, interdependence. This is when people work together to achieve a common goal, and is the level of maturity of many people in a mature society or organization. This is how mankind has achieved things together that no single person could do alone. Interdependence is the state of human development of greatest maturity and power.

That had a huge impact on me. When I read that, it tallied with everything I’d learned myself in the last world tour and everything I was discovering with my family.

And this all brings me to my final point: life is too short and good relationships are too scarce to make hiding your feelings a worthwhile endeavour. Whether it’s that girl in the coffee shop (and if you’re reading this, you know who you are), that wonderful girlfriend you have back home who hasn’t seen you in months (you know how much I miss you), your best friends, your family, your son, your brother or whatever, let them know you appreciate them.

Whether it’s with a compliment that takes them by surprise, an act of kindness, support when they need it, or even just a mind-blowingly good orgasm (certainly one of my preferred ways to thank the wonderful women in my life), let them know. One day your life may take an unexpected turn and you will be glad you did.

Oh, and one last thing: realise that with the good will come the bad. Bad relationships will always happen – bad friends, bad lovers, bad colleagues and even bad family members. There will be naysayers, criticisers and those who move against you.

In the last few years, I’ve been called all kinds of things and judged by all kinds of people for who I am and what I do (one day I might post the hilarious religious hate mail I got). If you’re going to make ripples in the world, expect to irk a few people. If you do that, you know you’re making an impact and doing something right.

Learn from all of it, protect your downside, and filter all your relationships with all that you learn so you get more of the good and less of the bad.

Regards,

Jeremy Soul

Let your passions shine through

If you’re not living an interesting life, then it won’t matter how you present yourself to women over the long run. No matter what clothes you wear, how much money you have, or what car you drive, women will not want to spend time with you.

The best way to become an interesting person is to find your passion in life by living out your dreams. If you need inspiration, watch Randy Pausch’s “Last Lecture” on YouTube, or pick up the book by the same name. Another great book to read if you feel like you haven’t done enough in your life is Yes Man by Danny Wallace. The hero of the story realizes one day how boring his life is and decides to say “Yes” to every opportunity that presents itself to him for a year. It’s an inspirational story and I think we can all learn from it.

Do something unexpected

When something unexpected happens to a person, they are more likely to remember it. Most people do not remember their commute to work on any given day. That’s because 90% of the time it’s always the same. However, if there was a big fire at a building you always pass on your commute, you can be sure that day’s commute will not be soon forgotten.

This is why when you read about the adventures of Love Systems dating coaches it seems like we often do or say such random things. Since it’s different, it catches people’s attention, and it’s memorable. However, doing something different does not necessarily mean doing something outlandish, and it definitely does not mean doing something weird (unless you really know what you’re doing).

Approaching a girl on the street to tell her that you really like her style and that you had to come over to find out some more about her is different. First, it’s different since she is not used to strangers approaching her in the street. Second, the approach method is different – instead of hooting and hollering you are being bold and direct, yet in a respectful manner. By becoming more memorable you’re inherently increasing your odds of success when you follow up.

Be Congruent

To have credibility with a woman (especially a beautiful woman that is choosy), you must be congruent. Being congruent means that you have behavior that is consistent with the identity you portray. If you display a particularly personality trait (for example, integrity), congruence requires that you act in a manner consistent for someone that has that trait. I cannot stress the importance of this enough. Women are not stupid – they will notice if you act in an inconsistent manner, and it will severely damage your credibility with them. Do not try to be something you are not.

Jeremy Soul

Check out this FHM article for more Daytime Dating tips.

Jeremy Soul

FHM Studies the Science of Seduction with Professors Nick Savoy and Jeremy Soul

The major men’s magazine devles into the mysteries of the brain to find out what makes men and women tick. Along the way they get some help from Love Systems’ own Nick Savoy and Jeremy Soul.

No date this year? Time you brushed up on your “womenthink.” FHM’s graphical analysis shows you what your brain is doing and how you can use scientifically-proven techniques to increase your success with women.

1. Humour. FHM always plays hardball with women who claim to want a man with ‘a sense of humour’ and not money or killer abs. The truth is that girls are attracted to funny men – but not because underneath the endless feuds with work colleagues, chicks are all a good laugh really. “Being able to share laughter and induce it in others might seem frivolous, but it’s not,” says Nick Savoy of Love Systems dating. “It creates social bonds and triggers positive emotions.” Essentially, not only do funny men make women ‘feel good,’ they have that all-important social currency. Self-deprecating humour also implies status, as you’re confident enough to take the piss out of yourself.

2. Names. Having a conventional name helps women attract more men. Girls called Sarah, Emma, Lucy, Kate and Laura received disproportionately more attention on noted dating site mysinglefriend.com. So go for girls with crazy names – they’re grateful, like fat ones. The most popular men’s names with women are Ben, Ed, Mark, Tom and Chris. Which sounds like a university hockey team.

3. Height. For love to bloom, the ideal height of the male partner is four to five inches more than the female.

4. Intimacy/secrets. Says Jeremy Soul, also from Love Systems: “Be careful how much you share if you’re not looking for a partner. The emotional mechanism for falling in love involves revealing your feelings to each other. York-based psychologist Professor Arthur Arun conducted a study where he made complete strangers swap intimate details of their lives for 30 minutes. Many reported a strong attraction to each other afterwards and two even got married.”

5. Sex. And at last, science can make women into wanton lionesses begging for sex. Well, it can amplify the sensation in the G-spot. Knightsbridge Laser Clinic’s Doctor Eltohamy is championing a technique where she injects collagen into the ellusive magic button, enlarging it to the size of a fifty pence piece. 87% of hungry chicks who’ve had the op “reported increased sexual pleasure.”

One of the most powerful tools you have at your disposal to move along the Emotional Progression Model and seduce a women is storytelling. The power of stories is that they can help you in most areas of the Emotional Progression Model (i.e. Approaching, Attraction, Comfort, and even Qualification a little bit). Some stories can even achieve multiple aims at the same time (i.e. Approaching + Attraction, or Attraction + Comfort).

As discussed in Magic Bullets, building Attraction is primarily about having a woman discover your positive characteristics. One way to do this is for a woman to be told about them by you. Storytelling is great because it allows you to tell a woman almost anything you want about yourself. When building Comfort, storytelling can help build a meaningful connection with a woman. Stories provide a great opportunity for her to get to know you better and should encourage her to tell you about herself as well.

My preferred approach to story-telling comes from Magic Bullets, and has six distinct components: A hook line, The Flow (main content of the story), Embedded information, Opportunities for input, Open threads, and the Conclusion.

Hook Lines

One of the biggest mistakes men make is to take the interest of their audience for granted. To make sure that the woman you are talking to is interested in your story, you should start with a “hook line” to grab her interest. You have to find a way to create demand for your story. Before you tell someone something, they have to want to hear it if they are going to listen intently. The best way to gain someone’s interest is either by doing something unexpected, or by making them curious. The two are not mutually exclusive. Either way they will want to keep listening and/or interacting with you to find out where you are going with things. Basically, once you’re already in a conversation, try and create some curiosity within her before you tell a story. Make it your goal next time you go out to have a girl asking you to tell her a specific story that you have in mind.

Building curiosity could be as simple as asking “Have you ever been to Mexico?” before you tell a great story about the vacation you just had there. It’s also a great way of testing out the waters before focusing too much on a subject she has no interest in. If she answers “no, but I’ve always wanted to go to Cancun”, then you know you’ve hooked her. However, you know it’s best to save the story for another time if she says “I’ve never been to Mexico. I’m just not really interested in that part of the world.”

The Flow

Don’t spend a lot of time discussing the preamble to your story. You can work in necessary details as needed – you should parachute right into your story. The first mission of a good story is to grab attention (instead of giving background information).

Also, it’s important to remember that women listen differently than men. Don’t focus on the logical details unless they help you paint a vivid picture of the story in your audiences mind. Make your story one that is centered around emotions and feelings.

Embedded Information

Embedding is when you tell a story that appears to be about one subject to subtly tell listeners about something else. The “something else” is usually positive characteristics about yourself that you don’t want to bring up directly to avoid obvious bragging or the appearance of trying too hard to impress her.

For example, if you went to a prestigious college, you can embed that piece of information in a story about when you were in college. One way to do that would be by mentioning the location (i.e. if you set your story in New Haven most people will know you went to Yale). Another way to do it would be by mentioning a story about the college sports team you root for. That way the fact that you went to a top school naturally comes out in the conversation, and you don’t have to force it.

Opportunities for Input

The best stories involve their audience in the journey. It makes the interaction more of a dialogue than a monologue. Just be careful that the input a woman gives doesn’t take you somewhere you don’t want the conversation to go. The easiest way to get input is to ask a question. For example, if you’re talking about scuba diving, you should ask the woman you’re talking to if she scuba dives.

Conclusion

The ending of a good story doesn’t have to get everyone breaking out in laughter like the end of a classic Seinfeld episode. What’s important is that you clearly communicate that the story is over. As you develop your storytelling skills, then you can worry about ending on a humorous note, subtly working in a demonstration of high social value, or sharing a deep insight or lesson.

Other Tips

Use vivid language: Help your audience feel like they are there with you. Use sensory language to spark the visual part of your audiences mind. As Savoy says, you should be able to see, smell, feel, hear, and taste everything that you were sensing at that moment.

Tell stories you care about: How many of your stories are about things you really care about, know about, etc.? If you tell too many stories about things that are peripheral to who you are, then you are diluting your image, and worse, no one will care about them!

Loud, Slow, and Clear: Generally speaking, the best method of storytelling is speaking in a slow, measured pace. This allows you to tell your story clearly, and gives you ample opportunity to emphasize different parts of the story where appropriate. Speeding up a little, or speaking softly at certain points can add to the story… just make sure you aren’t doing it so often it becomes more the rule than the exception. Also, changing your tone when quoting another person from your story is often well received (especially when telling a funny story).

No one cares about all the big/fancy words you know: One of the biggest mistakes people make when talking is being too abstract. It’s hard for people to create a mental image of your story if they don’t understand what you’re saying, and/or you use too many abstract words.

Keep it focused: Try and stick to the rule of three (i.e. if you try to talk about more than three things at once you will end up talking about nothing, or at least your audience won’t remember any of it). If you’re all over the place with your story you’ll confuse your audience.

Other Resources: A great book that can help you with your storytelling is “Made to Stick” by Chip and Dan Heath. Also, if you want examples of great storytelling to look at, I would encourage you to read any of Malcolm Gladwell’s books, or to check out his New Yorker archive.

For hundreds of complete stories that the masters use, check out the Love Systems Routines Manual.

Watch as Jeremy Soul does what he’s best known for as he stops beautiful women on the streets of Sweden. Also included are commentaries and live discussion with one of the women!

Watch the video here.

Project Rockstar 2010

Become a Social Master

Official site: Project Rockstar

What is Project Rockstar?

Project Rockstar is a unique life coaching program sponsored by www.lovesystems.com for six carefully selected participants from around the world to train for six weeks in London & Stockholm with dating coaches, pick-up artists, fitness trainers, entrepreneurs, and other self-help experts in Europe and internationally.

The program is being run by Jeremy Soul, Love Systems’ Chief Day Game Instructor, recently voted No. 8 Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world by TSB Magazine. Mr M, Director of Love Systems Europe, originally founded Project Rockstar in 2008, and will act as consultant to the project this year.

The aim of Project Rockstar is to transform six specially selected men and women into true “Social Masters” and showcase how dating science can lead to the achievement of the truly aspirational Rockstar lifestyle. It is sponsored by www.lovesystems.com, the world leader in dating science.

The project is based on cutting-edge concepts of interpersonal change, self-help, NLP and social dynamics – including, but not limited to “The Game”, Social Circle Mastery, Inner Game, achievement psychology, networking technology and other aspects of dating and lifestyle science. While it is true that participants will achieve the highest levels of dating skill, the aim of the program is to go beyond this and for participants to achieve a truly aspirational lifestyle which involves both significant interpersonal change and lifestyle mastery.

The six-week project will blend seminars, theory sessions, homework assignments and live, in-field coaching in the social arts (largely, the ability to attract the opposite sex, but also networking and social circle building). Love Systems normally charges thousands of dollars for this kind of training (and for a six-week program, the cost would easily run into tens of thousands of dollars), but this particular project is run free of charge. However, applicants must be selected for participation and must be able to fund themselves for the duration of the training.

This year will also be the first year that we train women to be Rockstars as well as men. It is our goal to transform selected female applicants into Social Masters of love, sex and relationships, as well as have female dating coaches teaching on the program for the first time ever.

Project Rockstar 2009

If you didn’t read about last year’s Project Rockstar, you can search the official blog to see what you missed out on.

2009 was even more incredible than the previous year. The Rockstars consisted of a 21-year-old millionaire fashion mogul, a young internet marketing guru, an ex-drug addict turned self-help enthusiast, a rogue Frenchman entrepreneur, and an all-American, army-trained boy-next-door.

Their willpower, emotional integrity and physical constitution were tested as they woke for early morning seminars (learning about dating, wealth and health), practiced Day Game in the afternoons and bar and club game in the evenings, almost every day for the entire eight-week project. Their missions to charm the women of the world took them to London, Stockholm, Munich and Las Vegas.

Their lives will never be the same again. Since the end of Project Rockstar 2009, many have changed their life paths from traditional routes of business school, corporate ladder climbing and social circle limitation to entrepreneurial endeavors, choice with women and friends in their life, geographical freedom and more lifestyle adventure than they previously imagined they were capable of.

Project Rockstar 2010

In Project Rockstar 2010, we have the benefit of two years of learnings to make this year’s project the best ever. This year, we aim to:

* Make it more streamlined. There will be less time spent traveling and more focus on dating and social coaching.
* Make it more personalized. Each Rockstar will be given a high level of personal attention, as well as having elective parts of the program to choose from.
* Get more interactive. Rockstars will be required to perform various tasks in line with their personal electives, for example, a public speaking or comedy performance.
* Expand the syllabus to include Relationship Management and Work Productivity.
* Make it more public. Project Rockstar 2010 is an opportunity to get the world involved and passionate about lifestyle change. Much of the event will be filmed for publicity purposes.
* Have female Rockstars. Wait, what? Yes, women will be included among the six participants of Rockstar.

There will also be female dating coaches to assist.

What will Project Rockstar entail?

* Participants will focus on a specially designed syllabus for six weeks, requiring several hours a day for most days of the week. There will be time for them to rest as well so they can participate most efficiently during the program. It is encouraged (but not mandatory) that participants do not work or at least minimize working commitments for the 6-week duration.
* Talks and speeches from top dating coaches, pick up artists, fitness instructors, business advisers and lifestyle coaches will be featured.
* Emphasis will be placed on live and interactive training, including but not limited to “in-field” pick up training given at bars, nightclubs, streets, shopping malls and cafés.
* “Homework” assignments and special projects may also be assigned to participants.

Women in Project Rockstar

This is the first ever year we’re going to include women as participants (and as dating coaches) in Project Rockstar.

My experiences as a Dating Coach the last few years have shown me that we have the power to change the lives of men the world over: to make them stronger, to give them choice in their love lives, and to make them happier with who they are.

I know that we can do the same with women. The issues that women face in dating are distinct from those men face, but just as there are evolutionary and social principles at the root of Love Systems methodology for men, so too do such principles exist at the root of dating dynamics for women.

If you are a woman reading this, you might not be interested in “picking up” a man in the same way that a man might want to learn to meet a woman, but there are probably issues you have in your own dating and love life that you wish you had answers to. It might be issues of finding the right man, keeping him when you find him, or letting go of your social fears and becoming a more confident, attractive person in general. Whatever the issue, our coaches will be able to help you.

The dating syllabus for female participants will vary from male participants and will include (but is not limited to):

* Makeovers and style consultations
* Self-confidence & body language
* How to get men to notice you
* Male psychology and deciphering their actions
* Finding good men and initiating interactions
* Selecting and filtering men when they approach you
* Going on dates
* Dealing with jealousy, competition and judgment in your social circles
* Relationship Management

If you are a woman and are interested in participating in Project Rockstar, fill out the application form as for male applicants. If you have any specific questions about the project that aren’t answered here, email me at soul@lovesystems.com.

The minimum age is 18 but there is no maximum, as long as you are able to physically participate in all the activities on the project. It doesn’t matter what you look like or what your past history of dating is like. We are more concerned with your willingness to better your life.

If you think you have potential to be a female dating coach (or indeed, some other kind of mentor for the Rockstars), email me with more information about yourself and how you think you could help.

Late last year I was inspired by a good female friend of mine who joined us on a lot of our www.lovesystems.com workshops. She told me that what she learned with us changed her life and made her a much more confident, happy person. I’ve since talked to a lot more of my female friends, and I believe that women need as much help in dating as men do.

This year, Project Rockstar can help you.

The Instructor Team

Project Rockstar brings together some of the top talent from the European and international dating community and showcases the most advanced breakthroughs in dating science.

It is led by Jeremy Soul, who is widely recognized as the No.1 Day Game expert in the world and an internationally renowned Dating Coach. In addition to Jeremy Soul, this year’s core instructor team will include:

Mr M (the original Social Circle Master and founder of Project Rockstar), 5.0 (High End Club Game master), Vercetti (body language and Sub Communications master), Dr Yen (Hedonism & Fetish Expert), Starlight (specialist in Entrepreneurship and Lifestyle Design), Keychain (Rapid Escalation master), Carbeau (Day Game and Approach Anxiety master), Farmer (Direct Game and Interracial Dating Expert), Riddler & Prince (certified NLP and Hypnotherapy experts), Bugsy (master of subtle seduction) and Mattsson (Property Investor mogul).

There will also be many assistant coaches and experts from outside of Love Systems contributing to the project.

When will Project Rockstar run?

Project Rockstar will launch on 13 June 2010 and end on 25 July 2010.

The first three weeks will take place in London (United Kingdom) and the last three weeks will take place in Stockholm (Sweden).

Participants will be required to arrange and cover the cost of their own accommodation, travel and daily expenses. The total cost to them may prove to be significant, but the time they are getting from various Love Systems instructors and other mentors and coaches is easily worth tens of thousands of dollars.

Who can Apply?

People from all countries are welcome to apply but note the below details on accommodation and cost of travel.

The minimum age requirement for Project Rockstar is 18. However, there is no maximum age and applicants will not be disadvantaged by virtue of their age.

In last year’s Project Rockstar, we had several people from overseas. We encourage people from all walks of life and places around the world to apply.

Criteria for Selection

We are looking for men and women who have and can illustrate amazing drive and passion to accomplish their hopes and dreams. We want participants that are willing to give 110% and have demonstrable evidence of this (in other areas of life) in their application.

To ensure you achieve the absolute best results and make the program worthwhile for participating instructors, our coaches want to work with people with amazing drive and passion. Dating success is NOT a prerequisite. Passion, desire, commitment and enthusiasm are.

As a bonus, the ability and desire to make the program successful and widespread is looked upon favorably. Actionable steps of what you could do during the program to make it more interesting and accessible to readers and followers (e.g. suggestions such as video blog, in-field footage etc) will also be looked upon favorably.

The Selection Process

* Applications. Applications will be accepted from February 10 2010 until May 13 2010. Applications will be reviewed on a rolling basis. The earlier you get your application in and the stronger you make it, the more likely we are to select you for interview.
* Interviews. You will be contacted within this timeframe if you are selected for interview to speak with one or more of the Rockstar selection panel over the phone.
* Test Exercise. If you do well at interview stage, it is likely you will be a given an exercise to complete, which will assess your various capabilities as a potential Rockstar.
* Contact. Due to the sheer volume of applications we get every year, we regret that we will not be able to reply to every application or inform you if you were unsuccessful in your application. If for some reason you believe there are extenuating circumstances surrounding your application, you can make these clear in your application form. If you are unsure if your application was successfully submitted via the web form, you can contact me with a short email to soul@lovesystems.com so I can check and confirm receipt of your application.
* Program Commencement. Project Rockstar will begin on 13 June 2010 (in London) and end on 25 July 2010 (in Stockholm).

FAQs for Applicants

Q: How much is this going to cost me? How much should I budget for if I’m applying?

A: Although none of the coaches and instructors are charging for their time, you will most likely have to take time off work to participate in the six-week project (see below). That means you have to be able to support yourself for the duration of that time.

The amount you need to budget for this will vary widely depending on where you are coming from, how comfortable you want to be during the project, and whether you are able to still do some work (or manage your work remotely) during the project.

Previous Rockstars have typically budgeted anything from two to fifteen thousand dollars to allow for their costs. At the lower end, you can find cheap, shared accommodation for three weeks in London and three weeks in Stockholm, buy grocery food on most days and book cheap flights well in advance. If you have more income or money saved up, you might want to invest in being more comfortable.

Rockstar instructors, coaches and other participants will give you guidance on securing accommodation and everything else you need to prepare for the project if you are successfully selected.

Ultimately, where there is a will, there is a way. If you are strong-minded and want to participate, you could always think of ways to raise the money so you can. Project Rockstar is not just a six-week holiday, but an investment for the rest of your life – and don’t people normally spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on short-lived holidays, anyway?

Q: I’m old, ugly, short, fat and bald. Is it worth me applying?

A: If that’s all you think you are, probably not. If you know you are capable of more than life is currently offering you, particularly in the romance and sex department, and you can demonstrate achievement in other areas of your life in your application form, then yes, it’s completely worth applying.

Q: Is this all just about having sex with as many women as possible?

A: The lifestyle change we teach focuses on dating (meaning in this case, meeting and attracting the opposite sex) in the first instance. But mastery over your dating life is just the beginning.

With the tools we teach you, we hope to give you the social tools to master all relationships in your life, including those with your friends, family, career and business. In short, it’s a psychological and social overhaul of your life.

In addition to social coaching, there will also be specific techniques taught for entrepreneurship, productivity, and physical well-being.

If you are solely interested in sleeping with a lot of women, this is not for you…

Q: Do I have to give up work for six weeks to participate?

A: Project Rockstar is a very intense program. To get the most out of it, it is recommended that you do not work or otherwise minimize working commitments for the duration of the project.

For high caliber applicants who make a strong case to participate in their application but absolutely cannot take the time off work, exceptions may be made. Be sure to clearly state how you think you will be able to manage your energy and commitment levels if you believe you will have to continue to work during the project.

If you want to be involved with Project Rockstar but cannot commit for six weeks, look at other ways you can get involved.

Q: How much competition is there going to be for places on Project Rockstar?

A: A lot. Last year we had over 300 applications. Make sure that you spend time thinking about how to make your application as strong as possible.

Many of the successful applicants from last year spent weeks composing their application and sending it to people they trusted to them to read and proof it for them.

If it’s clear that you haven’t put a lot of thought into your application (and accordingly, there are a lot of spelling or grammatical errors), then don’t expect to hear back from us. We are looking for high caliber individuals. Write your application to show us that you are one.

Q: Will I be photographed and public facing if I am chosen to participate?

A: Yes. Project Rockstar will be heavily publicized, so your face and name might appear in mainstream online, press, radio and TV media.

Media attention ultimately benefits you. It might feel strange and uncomfortable at first, but getting involved in media can open up avenues to you that are important. Besides that, learning how to present yourself publicly is an important part of becoming a Social Master.

Q: How do I add a photo of myself into the application form?

A: For the Photo URL box, please upload a photo of yourself to a site such as Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket and paste the link in this box.

What to do if you are Interested

If you are interested in becoming one of the best in dating science and lifestyle on the planet, if you are willing to take your life to levels deliriously above where you are right now and only if you are willing to work with absolute passion to accomplish that, then you need to fill in the application forum on the Project Rockstar blog.

Before you do that, it is recommended that you spend time composing your answers in a word document first. That way, you can have a think about how you want to present yourself to us, you have your application saved in case your browser crashes, and you can send your application to your friends and people you trust to see how strong they think it is before you submit it.

When you are ready to submit it (and have proofed it all for spelling and grammatical errors – believe me, there is nothing in a swathe of applications that turns you off more than spelling errors every second word), copy and paste your answers into the form below and hit submit.

Do not be deterred by the small input boxes – you will need well thought out and comprehensive responses to differentiate yourself from the hundreds of applications. Consequently, try to make your application as descriptive as possible to satisfy the criteria.

For the Photo URL box, please upload a photo of yourself to a site such as Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket and paste the link in this box.

Please keep your total application to 1000 words or less. If you have any problems with submission, email Jeremy Soul at soul@lovesystems.com.

Please keep in mind that what we want from the answers you give is to have a holistic understanding of the person you are. Questions such as educational background, work history etc are there for us simply to fill in the overall understanding of you are a person.

Jeremy Soul and the Rockstar selection panel will personally review each application that is submitted on a rolling basis. We will contact you by email if you are selected for interview to arrange a suitable date and time (the interview will most likely take place over the phone, so it doesn’t matter where in the world you are).

The earlier you apply, you better you can prepare for the six-week summer program and make appropriate arrangements if indeed, you are selected. So it is in your interests to apply sooner rather than later.

Applications will be reviewed up until May 13 2010. If you submit an application after this date and believe you are an exceptional candidate for rockstar, you may contact soul@lovesystems.com directly with your application. Chances are we will have filled all the places by then, but it’s worth a try in the rare case that we haven’t.

Other Ways to Get Involved

We are looking for enthusiastic people to get involved with Project Rockstar.

As Project Rockstar is a non-profit venture, we rely on the goodwill of our instructors, guest speakers, benefactors and sponsors to make the program happen.

Anyone who can add value in any way to the program is welcome to join in on and learn from aspects of the program (which will vastly improve your social skill) or to simply be part of the fun and adventure.

Examples of ways in which you can get involved are (if you have expertise in any of these areas):

* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Entrepreneurship, Wealth or Business.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Relationships.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Dating or Pick Up.
* As a Guest Speaker / Rockstar Mentor in Health, Nutrition or Fitness.
* On the PR front – if you can assist in generating publicity for Project Rockstar.
* On filming, sound and video editing (for video coverage of Project Rockstar).
* Providing a venue for talks, seminars and workshop. If anyone has a space (apartment, meeting room, lounge or otherwise) that we could use, this could be very helpful.

Contact soul@lovesystems.com if you think you can help in any of these ways with more information about yourself and how you think you can help.

We are also open to any other ways in which you think that you might be able to add value to the program. Anonymity and privacy is assured if you do assist on the program.

Regards,

Jeremy Soul & the Project Rockstar Team

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Soul in the Media – Blog – Background – Classic Writings

“Finally, two days of intensive training come to an end and we’re walking back to the subway. It’s been intense, a lot of nerves and stress, a lot of knowledge to take in in such a short time, moments of defeat and moments of triumph. I’ve been in the community for over three years and I had read all of Soul’s materials, so I’m surprised that I still got out so many new inputs and ideas. It has been inspiring to meet Jeremy and experience how he expresses his passion and positivity. I’m impressed by his sincerity and integrity – both to women, and to his students. And I think that he did a great job teaching me.” – Shameless

The major men’s magazine devles into the mysteries of the brain to find out what makes men and women tick. Along the way they get some help from Love Systems’ own Nick Savoy and Jeremy Soul.

No date this year? Time you brushed up on your “womenthink.” FHM’s graphical analysis shows you what your brain is doing and how you can use scientifically-proven techniques to increase your success with women.

1. Humour.
FHM always plays hardball with women who claim to want a man with ‘a sense of humour’ and not money or killer abs. The truth is that girls are attracted to funny men – but not because underneath the endless feuds with work colleagues, chicks are all a good laugh really. “Being able to share laughter and induce it in others might seem frivolous, but it’s not,” says Nick Savoy of Love Systems dating. “It creates social bonds and triggers positive emotions.” Essentially, not only do funny men make women ‘feel good,’ they have that all-important social currency. Self-deprecating humour also implies status, as you’re confident enough to take the piss out of yourself.

2. Names.
Having a conventional name helps women attract more men. Girls called Sarah, Emma, Lucy, Kate and Laura received disproportionately more attention on noted dating site mysinglefriend.com. So go for girls with crazy names – they’re grateful, like fat ones. The most popular men’s names with women are Ben, Ed, Mark, Tom and Chris. Which sounds like a university hockey team.

3. Height.

For love to bloom, the ideal height of the male partner is four to five inches more than the female.

4. Intimacy/secrets.
Says Jeremy Soul, also from Love Systems: “Be careful how much you share if you’re not looking for a partner. The emotional mechanism for falling in love involves revealing your feelings to each other. York-based psychologist Professor Arthur Arun conducted a study where he made complete strangers swap intimate details of their lives for 30 minutes. Many reported a strong attraction to each other afterwards and two even got married.”

5. Sex.
And at last, science can make women into wanton lionesses begging for sex. Well, it can amplify the sensation in the G-spot. Knightsbridge Laser Clinic’s Doctor Eltohamy is championing a technique where she injects collagen into the ellusive magic button, enlarging it to the size of a fifty pence piece. 87% of hungry chicks who’ve had the op “reported increased sexual pleasure.”

Anders van Dahl of P4 (Norway’s national radio) recently invited me for an interview on Day Game. What started out as a discussion turned into live coaching, and with my assistance Anders approached women in the daytime on the streets of Oslo for the first time!

Read the English transcript here or listen to the audio (Norwegian) on the Love Systems YouTube channel.

Jeremy Soul.

Part 1

Anders: Already on the way out of P4’s offices down towards Oslo’s busiest shopping street, my entrails are close to turning inside out from anguish and panic. In the middle of the busiest morning rush, with busy and preoccupied people heading full speed towards their targets, this 1.7m tall, suited Brit of Indian origin is going to teach me about something very un-Norwegian: being sober, picking up anybody on the street and getting a date.

Jeremy’s magic formula isn’t really rocket science, but seems simple and viable, at least in theory.

Jeremy Voiceover: I stop them and say ”Excuse me, I just saw you walking past, and I had to come tell you that I think you look absolutely beautiful.”

Anders: I know that it’s slightly less than ten minutes until I am going to try this, and attempt to explain to Jeremy that there are some hopeless cases beyond saving.

Jeremy Voicever: I mean, some people naturally have the intuition and the ability to pick up someone. Some people don’t naturally have it. That’s my experience.

Anders: To demonstrate, he asks me to pick someone random, and I immediately lay eyes upon a young, pretty, classically blond Norwegian girl, around 1.70 m, across the street. She’s busily running up the stairs carrying a hot coffee, with a laptop bag over her shoulders. My chest hurts, I get red, sweat, and with a terrible taste in my mouth I watch Jeremy do his approach and introduce himself. First comes a slight tap on her shoulder.

Anders: I hardly believe my own eyes. Five minutes pass. Ten minutes pass. The dialogue is good, and Jeremy ends with today’s first phone number after his first attempt, and a coffee date three hours later. The scheme works!

On the street:

Jeremy: So, I went up to her and I delivered my opening line, you know, ”You look absolutely beautiful,” and did you see the confused look on her face? She was very surprised. That’s unusual.

Anders: I think it’s easier for you, because you’re English, you know. It’s much easier.

Jeremy: Yeah, well, you say that, but everyone has different advantages. I can say it’s easier for you because you’re taller, because you work in radio or whatever. It’s easier for him because he’s got money…

In studio:

Anders: Now, the build-up of self-confidence starts. The next time, it’s my turn.

Part 2

In studio:

Anders: Have you ever been on top of a bungee jump tower 80 meters high, stark naked, knowing that you have no cord around your feet while an insane mass murderer is right behind you and 90,000 people below you are laughing at your hopelessness? That was how it felt after Jeremy’s final peptalk before I was to do my very best. Or worst. Oh, I could have died for a Jack Daniels right then. Or an entire bottle. But, ”he who dares” and all that…

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, can I talk to you for two minutes?

Woman: I’m a bit short on time, actually.

Jeremy: I think you wanted to say something else.

In studio:

Anders: Where is that black hole in the street when I need it? The mess I’m standing in is far too big. Jeremy, save me! Save me!

He does, and the dialogue develops surprisingly well, not least thanks to my foreign friend. But what will this young girl do on such an early morning?

On the street:

Girl: Hand over the key to my boyfriend, and then maybe…

Anders: Okay. Yes. You run along, you’ve got to get to work.

In studio:

Anders: The heart feels a bit lighter right now. But once again, the nerves take over in approach number two. Be confident, appear intelligent, and find something smart to say. A good opening line.

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, do you know what time it is?

Woman: Yes, let’s see, about a quarter to.

Anders: A quarter to…?

Woman: A quarter to ten.

Anders: (Oh, shit.) Thank you.

Is it even possible…?

In studio:

Anders: I have really given in. Jeremy shakes his head. He’s got iron faith in me. And like a squire at his knight’s side, he supports me down towards Oslo Central Station. The place is full of pretty girls. Far too pretty for me. Anders, get a grip! Pull yourself together! The choice is made.

On the street:

Jeremy: And then say, ”I’d really love to continue the conversation over a drink; what do you think about that?”

In studio:

Anders: With four shopping bags, typing on her cell phone, there stands my chosen one and I go for it.

On the street:

Anders: Excuse me, can I stop you? What’s your name?

Trine: Trine.

Anders: (Yes!) Hi, Trine. So, where are you from?

Trine:Kristiansand.

Anders: You’re not from Oslo?

Trine: No, I study in Oslo.

In studio:

Anders: Despite being busy shopping and on her way to an appointment, she takes time to talk to me, and the conversation goes surprisingly easy.

On the street:

Anders: So, I just thought I had to come over to you and tell you how incredibly cute you are.

Trine: Wow – thanks a lot!

In studio:

Anders: After 12 minutes, I go for the kill.

On the street:

Trine: I’m actually on my way to school, so I really have to go.

Anders: Real quick before you go, you wouldn’t want to do something later, get a coffee or someting like that? I’ve got to show him around town for a while…

Trine: Yes…

Anders: Bring a friend or something.

Trine: I could do that.

Anders: Cool!

In studio:

Anders: The third time was the charm, and a tired and slightly embarassed radio guy goes back to the studio to edit this story. And the date? Well, that’s a totally different story.

Listen to the audio (Norwegian) on the Love Systems YouTube channel.

As the holidays come to an end and the New Year rolls around, we’re all faced with the same thing: we want more from our lives.

If you haven’t got your dating life sorted out yet, you need to take action now. If you don’t, every time you see a beautiful woman walk past you and you don’t say anything to her, the regret will eat away at your soul.

The biggest mistake that men make with women is not having a game plan. You need a game plan for dating as for everything else in life. So let’s look at some pointers for getting better at dating this year.

1. Figure out exactly what your ideal dating life is. I meet clients every week who tell me they want to get good with women, but I ask them, “What does that mean to you?”

For some, it means sleeping with a variety of women in low-commitment relationships. For some, it means finding that one, special girl. For some, it just means being able to approach any woman they want, anywhere and anytime.

Figure it out and write it down. Stick in on your wall. Write it on your iPhone. Find some way to keep it at the forefront of your mind as what you’re working towards on a daily basis.

2. Devise a strategy to achieve those goals. In order to achieve your ultimate goal, you need to figure out a good route there.

If you want more women in your life, then you’ll need to be making lots of approaches. If it’s higher quality women or that special girl you’re after, then you need to be screening more thoroughly for girlfriend criteria. If it’s a certain type of situation you like to meet women in (whether it’s the daytime, a bar or a social event), then figure out a plan to get into these situations as often as possible.

When I decided to get good with women, I realized I would need to be going out a lot to do it. I rented an apartment right in the centre of town, figured out the local day and nightspots that were full of good-looking women, and started going to them regularly.

3. Seek Mentors. You need people who are better with women than you to guide you.

This site is great for that. You also have the live training we do at Love Systems (formerly known as The Mystery Method). When you take a program with us, we become your mentors.

Either way, you need to be inspired by and emulate others who are already good at dating. Seek them out, train with them, befriend them, and absorb their wisdom.

4. Seek Peers. As well as mentors, you need people who are at your level that you can spend time hanging out with and being your wingmen.

People often find it easier to work towards things when they have other people doing the same with them (that’s why gym classes are so popular). It’s the same with dating.

Your peers will help you with the burdens and frustrations you face as you strive to work on your dating life and will be there to share your successes with too.

5. Keep a journal. Keep a record somewhere of the work you’re putting into your dating life, your feelings on how it’s going, and an honest appraisal of whether you’re meeting the targets you set yourself.

It’s your choice whether you keep a private journal or put it somewhere public (like a dating forum). If it’s the latter, you might build a following with your exploits, or even have other people to hold you accountable for making sure you achieve what you set out to.

I used to write a journal a few years back when I first started working on my dating life. Even now, after all this time, sometimes I’ll look at it and suddenly remember how far I’ve come since then. It’s a great way to store memories of events too. After all, it’s the journey and not the destination that makes everything so interesting.

Jeremy Soul