If your love life is a stats chart, you're missing the point

I meet clients, women and journalists all the time who ask me about my “success rate” with women: how many women have I slept with, how many phone numbers can I get in a daytime dating session, can I seduce any woman I want, and am I in a serious and committed long-term relationship?

I have some fairly comprehensive answers to these questions (and look at my post on Quality Vs. Quality in Love, Sex & Relationships if you’re interested in finding out more), but really, it’s about digging at the root of what the person wants to know.  Are they looking for verification that you’re as good with women as people say you are; are they looking for a comparison point for themself; or are they looking for information to judge your character as a man?

For example, I have been with a lot of women (and I believe it to be crass to get more specific than that), but do I believe that to be an accurate reflection of what it means to be good with women? Hell no. It’s a factor, sure, but just one among many.

In the same way a business is not just numbers and profit, but about margins, revenue, employee turnover, company values, strategic goals and so on, your love life is about so much more than just the stats on the women you’ve bedded.

Don’t get me wrong – certain statistical benchmarks are helpful if you’re setting milestones for specific short-term goals. But really what you are looking for is what some call the Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals (BHAGs), or what “Switch” authors Chip and Dan Heath refer to as Black & White Goals: simple, yet mind-blowingly bigger picture goals.

For example, the one I realised that I have been chasing for years, and now, five years on from when I first started exploring dating science, I feel I have achieved is:

Never Worry about my Love Life Again.

In the same way that a wealthy man understands that money will come and go, that his business will have ups and downs, but that he will always be ok, no matter what, I feel that with the experiences, tools and strategies I’ve learned, I will always be ok in love and sex.

That to me, is a far more worthy achievement than any numerical value of how good with women I am. It’s similar to how Gary Vaynerchuk, one of my favourite business gurus, says that business is not just about making money: it’s about doing what you love, for a living, and going for the Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals, but making sure to enjoy the process. Don’t spend all your time comparing your stats with people around you; ask yourself instead, “Am I happy?”

Don’t get me wrong; I have had some crazy and debaucherous adventures and I don’t regret a single one of them. But there’s been a lot of hard work, frustration, and heartache (both that which I caused, and that which I received) along the way. You don’t get the glory without spilling some guts.

But when I get to the end of my life, I won’t say to myself, “I wish I had been with more women” or “I wish I had impressed other people more.” No. I’ll cherish the memories:

• You, who came to London and left half a year later amid tears and planes and diamond jewellery.
• You, who I called from a stripclub in Las Vegas to apologise for being a douchebag; you, who tolerated me for not being the man you needed but loved me for the man I was.
• You, who I kept at arm’s length, but who moved worlds with me when our bodies collided.
• You, who made one of the greatest international adventures I’ve ever had possible.

So gentlemen, my recommendation? Set your targets, sure. Follow your gurus and verify their credibility and what they’ve achieved. But above all, keep in mind the bigger picture, and live for the memories. They are what will stay with you for life.

Jeremy Soul

This is what my workload currently looks like

I’m changing the way I blog and keep people updated via my Jeremy Soul facebook account (and at some point in the next few months, I’ll probably get into twitter properly too). I’ve become a big fan of Gary Vaynerchuk, who advocates being really passionate about your business and what you do, and expressing that fully and openly to people.

He makes a lot of good points (and I even pitched to him to be a business mentor for Project Rockstar – no dice this year, but as always, who knows what the future brings). One thing I’ve think I’ve gotten partially from him, but also kinda realised myself, is that good dating and good relationships – whether they’re with family, friends, lovers, partners, colleagues or even all you guys as readers, fans, followers and clients – require honest communication.

Writing this blog, articles, doing podcasts, interviews etc. is partly about marketing. I am trying to spread the message about what I can do and hopefully change the course of my life as well as anyone else who’s willing to listen and “join the conversation”.

But that doesn’t mean all that marketing can’t be honest and show a truly real side of me. I feel the same about seduction and dating as I do about marketing: honesty and integrity pays out in the long run. I’ve met many, many successful people in all fields of life, from dating experts to businessmen to celebrities, in the last few years. From my experiences, I’ve learned two things:

1. Having integrity can benefit your life hugely in the long run.

2. Running my business or my dating life without integrity, even if it were to bring me “success”, would not make me happy. I would hate the process.

Screwing other people over, lying, cheating and manipulating others to get a few short-term results? No, thank you.

I feel very strongly about this issue. Years ago, I felt so strongly about this that I went against the grain of almost the entire seduction industry (and in particular, a few popular seduction gurus of that time) by asserting that being direct and honest when you went to talk to women could work; in fact, that it could be better, and even more powerful than the artificial lines, pretexts and ploys that many men have historically used to meet women.

People challenged me and no one believed in the power of being direct or in the power of daytime dating. Now, I get recognised in clubs and streets all over the world by Jeremy Soul followers who cottoned on to what I was doing (and I am still a sucker for attention and praise – so do feel free to introduce yourself if you see me somewhere!) and the current in the seduction industry (and particularly within Love Systems) has shifted towards being more direct and honest. Now people believe what I believed and acted on five years ago: being a gentleman is one of the most powerful ways to enrich your love life.

If it’s true with love and sex, I believe it to be true with business as well. If you treat people well, you build potentially synergistic relationships that will continue to offer value to you in the future. If you treat people badly (or if you “act like a d*ck”), then you may get a short-term gain, but you screw yourself over in the long run.

I don’t want to get all sciencey on everyone (maybe not all of my readers are as into biology and psychology as much as I am), but this is basically the evolutionary basis for altruism (which is a fancy word for “being nice to other people”). Anyone wanting to find out more about this, check out the research done on the Prisoner’s Dilemma (wikipedia it!).

Without going into tons of detail right now (and perhaps I will in a later blog post – when it’s not 1am on a Saturday night/Sunday morning), this year so far for me has been a huge series of sucker punches and curveballs. A lot of stuff I didn’t expect to happen, happened, not least of which being my father’s health taking a sudden turn for the worse.

When that happened, and I finally found time to process the learnings over my last 3-month world tour (Europe, USA and Australia) running Daytime Dating workshops, the power of relationships and the importance of family dawned on me. The relationships we have with our parents are literally the first relationships we ever develop. Beyond a genetic link and genetic self-interest, there’s also a shared history we have with them that is very difficult for any other relationship to match.

Which brings me to another point: at the end of the day, isn’t it all about creating that history? About building memories and experiences? And ultimately, don’t those memories and experiences almost always involve other people in some way?

Look, don’t get me wrong. Money is important, status is cool, adrenaline is fun, but ultimately, whatever you’re doing, you need other people to help you do it, and whatever you end up enjoying, you want to enjoy it with other people.

I found some great notes on the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People recently that said this:

We all start out life as babies completely dependent on our parents or other person to take care of us. This is a state of weakness and powerlessness.

As we grow up we work to become independent, moving out of our parent’s home, earning money for ourselves, etc. A person at this level is able to do things for himself and does not need anyone else to survive.

The greatest human achievements come from people working at the third level, interdependence. This is when people work together to achieve a common goal, and is the level of maturity of many people in a mature society or organization. This is how mankind has achieved things together that no single person could do alone. Interdependence is the state of human development of greatest maturity and power.

That had a huge impact on me. When I read that, it tallied with everything I’d learned myself in the last world tour and everything I was discovering with my family.

And this all brings me to my final point: life is too short and good relationships are too scarce to make hiding your feelings a worthwhile endeavour. Whether it’s that girl in the coffee shop (and if you’re reading this, you know who you are), that wonderful girlfriend you have back home who hasn’t seen you in months (you know how much I miss you), your best friends, your family, your son, your brother or whatever, let them know you appreciate them.

Whether it’s with a compliment that takes them by surprise, an act of kindness, support when they need it, or even just a mind-blowingly good orgasm (certainly one of my preferred ways to thank the wonderful women in my life), let them know. One day your life may take an unexpected turn and you will be glad you did.

Oh, and one last thing: realise that with the good will come the bad. Bad relationships will always happen – bad friends, bad lovers, bad colleagues and even bad family members. There will be naysayers, criticisers and those who move against you.

In the last few years, I’ve been called all kinds of things and judged by all kinds of people for who I am and what I do (one day I might post the hilarious religious hate mail I got). If you’re going to make ripples in the world, expect to irk a few people. If you do that, you know you’re making an impact and doing something right.

Learn from all of it, protect your downside, and filter all your relationships with all that you learn so you get more of the good and less of the bad.

Regards,

Jeremy Soul

I first met those guys a couple of years ago when they started coaching for Love Systems. Since then, we’ll all travelled the world, had crazy dating adventures with women, and partied and got into all sorts of debauchery together.

Two years on, we have a shared history and brotherhood that’s hard to find. I’m a big believer in the power of history with people you meet in life. Whether that’s with women you’ve loved and been loved by, friends you’re journeyed through life with, or family you grew up with.

Those relationships need to be honoured and treasured. It’s those relationships that get you through life and all of its travails.

Glad to you know you boys, and look forward to more adventures and growth in the coming year.

Good times on the reg

Keith Ferazzi’s book Never Eat Alone is still on my reading list, but I just came across this link with notes for the book.

There’s some serious gold in there if you can work out how it all applies to Dating and meeting women. Take a look and see what you think…

http://bookoutlines.pbworks.com/Never-Eat-Alone

Any idea how girls feel about approaching guys? A journalist from SF Weekly covered my recent sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco, and proposed we turn the tables and look for girls who would be interested in some dating coaching. Starlight posted this blog about what we found out.

Jeremy Soul

Girl Game

So, last weekend Soul, Bonsai and I ran a sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco. SF Weekly sent out a camera crew and female reporter to cover the event, which was fun in the sense that sometimes girls would see the photographer’s lens poking out of the bushes while we were in set in Union Square!

Anyhow, after the event ended, over a few drinks, the reporter threw out the idea: “Hey, how about we put up a Twitter alert for 6 girls looking to improve their love lives with a few professional dating coaches?”

Hmm…coach girls on how to approach & open guys? Sounds fun. A whole new storyline for SF Weekly to play with. And the chance to put a lot of brainstorming with Soul and Whim to work.

So we showed up in the Marina at 8p to meet the 6 lucky ladies.

There was a tall blond personal trainer looking to meet potential mates outside of her profession, a twentysomething Asian advertising exec that just loathed being approached by guys…but yearned to meet new people and build connections in neutral territory before even broaching intimacy.

We sat outside under the clear night sky and heat lamps, getting a feel for all of there relationship lives of late. A lot of interesting stuff came up.

Turns out there are a lot of girls out there who are frustrated that guys don’t “do what they’re supposed to” when they give invitations to approach like smiling, looking at you or doing a double take.

So we decided to flip the script and have them open guys, riffing on the stereotype:

“Hey, so I know I’m supposed to stand over and smile at you until you come talk to me, but…I thought you looked cool, so I wanted to come say hi”

Guys jaws dropped, a couple thought they were kidding, but only ONE guy-set blew out our chics all night

Here is a mindmap that Soul & Whim created to map out Girl Game

Soul and I also got a chance to confirm some of the material that we teach:

* Female attraction works like a volume knob; it’s not just on/off like a light switch, and needs to be ramped up through a variety of emotions and intrigue.

* Girls do not get all dolled up just to go dance with their girl friends. They want to meet cool, interesting guys, but generally have come to despise being approached by guys who “just don’t get it” or are “sleezy and weird,” or perhaps worse of all: “guys that are just plain boring”

* That they are irresistibly (and sometimes unexplainably) attracted to guys that “just don’t give a fuck” or can be jerks sometimes…that aren’t afraid of what other people think. (I think this is because it’s a good counter-balance to female hyper-awareness of relative social value, and there place in the hierarchy)

An important takeaway of mine is summed up like this:

Read more of Starlight’s blog.

Christmas parties are incredible for meeting women. Try to go to as many as possible, simply because they are so much fun. People seem to be high on happiness and joy and full of festive excitement. Single women often get into the mood and feel like having a bit of romance under the mistletoe, so it’s a great excuse to get flirty with people and have fun!

Here are my top 10 tips for pulling at Christmas Parties:

1. Get involved as much as possible

The more you’re an integral part of the event, the more you’ll get a chance to meet and be seen talking to a lot of people, which elevates your social status at the party and makes you someone women would want to talk to.

2. Don’t leer at all the single ladies

Most single guys are on the prowl and checking out the possible “options” as soon as they walk in. Don’t be most guys – that’s a surefire way to ruin your pulling chances.

3. Don’t get drunk

Most men feel the need to have a few drinks before they start talking to women – especially ones they find really attractive. One or two drinks aren’t too bad, but once that snowballs into being drunk by the end of the night, it’s a real turn-off for women.

4. Introduce yourself to everyone early on

At parties, you have an automatic excuse to talk to people. It’s not like being at a random bar or nightclub where it requires some kind of creative or ballsy opening line to go talk to a stranger.

All you need to say is, “Hi, I’m Jeremy,” shake their hand and ask them what they’re up to over Christmas. You want to do this early on in the evening, you have a ton of people you’ve already talked with and can re-initiate contact with.

5. Introduce groups of friends to each other

As things progress throughout the night, introduce groups of people you know to each other. Being seen as a social connector and someone who knows everyone at the party will build huge amounts of attraction with the women there.

Introducing your friends to the friends of a woman you like can also be useful because it can allow you to have a more private conversation with her while your friends engage her friends.

6. Re-initiate contact with the women you like

Keep being the social guy, talking to lots of different people, but at some point re-engage the woman you find the most attractive. At this point, you’ve already talked with her, it’s natural to re-initiate conversation by asking her something simple like, “how are you enjoying the party?”

7. Connect with her emotionally

Get more personal with her, find out who she is and what makes her tick, and let her know more about yourself. The key to attraction with women is showing yourself to be an interesting person (by talking about things that are important to you and you are passionate about) and to be interested in who she is as a person.

8. Take her somewhere more private

A woman might become attracted to you when she has a good conversation with you, but she’s unlikely to act on that by kissing you or otherwise blatantly flirting with you in front of her friends and family.

So come up with an excuse to move her somewhere away from other people. It can as simple as, “Do you fancy going out for some air?” or “Hey, want to grab a drink at the bar?” Anything that gets you some more alone time with her.

9. Suggest staying in touch

You may want to spend more time with the woman you’ve been talking to immediately, maybe even try to take her home that night.

However, this won’t always be possible depending on who she came with, whether she has to get up early the next morning, which friends she is there with etc. There’s also the chance that for whatever reason, you’ll lose her at some point in the crowd.

So it’s a good idea after talking with her for a while to suggest exchanging contact details and staying in touch. That way, if she does disappear at some point, at least you have a phone number to follow up on.

10. Manage logistics

If you are going for the full pull that evening, you need to focus on getting her away from people that might judge her for going home with you. Discretion is paramount. Don’t make any obvious moves on her physically when anyone else is around.

Either find a secluded room somewhere, or ask her if she wants to come back to your place. If you go for the latter, make sure you both have a discreet way of getting away from the party without people knowing that you’re going home together, e.g. offering to give her a lift home.

And have fun…
Jeremy Soul

Meet Jeremy Soul, an expert at Day Game.

Metro went around town with him.

Read it at Metro (Swedish) 

New Day Game Workshop in Stockholm – January 16, 2010!

“Do you like brunettes or blondes? I already forgot,” says British Jeremy Soul, turning to two of his students. Jeremy works with the dating organization Love Systems, which markets seduction techniques. His specialty is so called “day game,” in which you flirt with women around the town during the day. Today they’re in Stockholm.

“The most important thing is to meet and talk to women in a way that they appreciate. If you’re not a club guy then you don’t have to pick up women in night clubs. I think it’s easier to talk to people on the street. It’s a more genuine conversation,” says Jeremy.

Suddenly one of the students stops in his tracks and rushes after a woman who just passed by. He taps her on the shoulder and delivers his line.

“It looks good; he’s more confident than before. Can you see her tossing her hair? That’s a good sign,” says Jeremy, who follows the pick up attempt from a distance.

Unfortunately, no phone number this time.

Just a few years ago Jeremy himself was a shy nerd who hardly even dared to look at a girl. Finally he got tired of it and got a handle on his life.

“It’s accepted to work out to get muscles but not to take control over one’s love life. We train people to become those charming and cool guys that you’ll find interesting. Is that really so weird?”

Is it okay if a girl tries to pick you up?

 “I don’t mind but I prefer to do the picking up myself. I want to lead the conversation.”

 5 Tips 

1. Appearance. Be mindful of what you wear and what it says about you.

2. Start the conversation with a compliment. For instance: “I saw you passing by and I like your style.”

3. Be interested. Find out who she is and what she does. Lead the conversation.

4. Body language. Act confidently and don’t be afraid to touch the person you’re talking to.

5. Get contact information to be able to meet later. Evenings are better suited for intimacy.

Fredrik Hansson

Translated by Girolamo

Cheers,

Jeremy Soul

One big fallacy I see when guys first start to learn how to meet women is that they think they can get every girl with the tools we teach them. This is simply not true. We teach you structured opportunities to meet and date more women, but never ever will you get every woman. Any guy who says he can teach you to get every girl is a fraud. It does not happen. I used to believe when I learned the “pickup artist tools” that I could get every girl, but soon enough I found out that’s simply not the case. What “having game” gives you is more choice of women to date but there will always be a group of women who will just not be attracted to you no matter what. The goal is to find compatible women and women who are open to date you. The following idea was first brought up on another lair board but first broken down on a bootcamp by dating coach Braddock. I’ve expanded upon the idea and dissected it further.

I’ve separated women in the dating pool in three groups in terms of compatibility. This has nothing to do with a woman’s beauty, but what some people call “chemistry.” Naturally there are women that are just not compatible with you (red). Then there is a pool of women that will like you just for who you are (green). The biggest group is the women who are indifferent (gray). The following diagram summarizes it.

Remember this diagram from your statistics class? You can see the dating pool as a bell curve. On one end of the bell curve, red, is the group of women that you will never get. No. Matter. What. Accept it. Some of these women won’t give you any time when you approach or you find out that a girl has all the turn-offs you have on your list. Either way, that pool of women is not for you.

All the way on the other end of the bell curve is the group of women that are naturally compatible with you. These are the women who immediately like you and are attracted to you without you having any game. With these women, all you have to do is not screw it up to get them. A lot of guys, before they discovered Love Systems, felt like they were in a relationship with a “green” girl because it was always the girl picking the guy. But we are here to expand our options and have the option for who we pick to meet and date.

The women in the gray zone are initially open to meet you and figure out if you are someone she wants to date. This is the biggest dating pool. Most women you will meet will fall in the gray zone. Now, this is where “game” comes in. These are the women where you need “game” to get them because they are indifferent before you two meet. It’s your job to make her feel attracted to you (”chemistry”) and lead the way to a possible relationship. By having decent game you will no longer be limited to just the women in the green zone but you will also be able to meet and date women in the gray zone.

SIDENOTE: What I would do with the women who I meet and are “red” is I will try to make these girls my friend. I can’t get them attracted to me or date me, but I will try to make them at least my friend. Why? To expand my own social circle but also because these “red” girls might have female friends that are “green” or “gray” (and beautiful of course!) that I could possibly date.

If you had no game, you would just be limited to the women in the green zone and you would think all the women you meet are in the “red” zone. Unfortunately, that is what most guys have to settle for and I used to be one of them. Since you are reading this post you are likely a guy who wants to be able to consistently date women in the green AND gray zone. So don’t waste your time with women who are naturally “red.” That is your biggest enemy and you will waste a lot of time. Instead, focus on the girls who are “green” and “gray”, especially “gray.” You will notice in the beginning when you try to learn Love Systems that most women you meet will be in the gray zone. As you get better and better more women will fall into the green zone. Which brings up the next point.

So you want to learn game? My suggestion would be to grab a copy of Magic Bullets and the Love Systems Routines Manual. Go out and contact me for any questions.

 

Expand Your Green Zone

Besides learning game to expand your options with women, you can also work on yourself to expand your dating pool choices. You can boost your natural attractiveness to women by working out, getting a fashion makeover, grooming, and with general self-improvement.

Just learning game will expand your green zone too because you naturally become a guy that is attractive to women. You become more funny, understand women, can pass tests women give you, and so on.

Another way to expand your green zone would be to workout and get in shape. Regular exercise helps your success with women in many ways. You will feel better, look better in your clothes, have better skin, and is healthy for your mind too. Plus, it helps your state control when you go out and you will be better in bed because you will last longer / perform better.

Another easy step would be to get a new haircut and wardrobe to change your look. Looks matter, but not as much as you would think.

Self-improvement is a big area, but some suggestions would be read more books, travel, take more hobbies, get more friends, and improve your career. All these tips, plus the ones mentioned earlier in the article, are good starters and will expand the amount of “green” girls. Add having good game and you will be able to date A LOT OF BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.

In my opinion, you want to expand your green zone as much as you can up to the point where you need very little game to meet and date beautiful women. Why? Because your green zone is so big that it gives you more women than you can handle (and you don’t need to find women in the gray zone). This is where social circle game will be your next piece and having that lifestyle where your health, wealth, and relationships are at its peak. That’s worth explaining in another post.

Bonsai – Dating Coach, Los Angeles

I’m going to pass over to Neko who is kindly assisting me with the NYC Love Systems Mini-Conference this coming Sunday 19th July. Over to him.

How would you like to hear five of the world’s best dating instructors share their best kept secrets for meeting, attracting, and dating beautiful women?

Being an instructor for Love Systems, the world’s premier dating advice company for men, is hard! We spend all our time creating and refining the best techniques to allow you to meet and attract the women you want… and we know that only a small number of the most dedicated students ever get to hear it.

So for one day only, here’s your chance to hear some of the advice that we only share on our exclusive bootcamps – at a greatly reduced price!

Soul, Love Systems’ London-based Day Game expert is visiting New York to teach a Day Game Workshop and decided to host this one-time-only special event.

It will be hours of pure content – hours of cutting-edge dating and attraction advice from some of the most experienced, advanced guys around – for only $100.

Sign up here: http://lovesystemsnewyork.eventbrite.com/

This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to meet and learn from some of the world’s best dating coaches at this amazing price!

SOUL on Day Game

Soul is probably the most widely recognized authority on Day Game right now, traveling the world specifically to teach in-field Day Game workshops for Love Systems. In an exclusive preview of his Day Game Workshop, you’ll learn how to meet beautiful women in the daytime and during your day-to-day life, as well as how the Love Systems Triad fits into Day Game.

SOUL on Sexual Escalation

In addition to his Day Game presentation, Soul will teach a second session on his other main area of expertise: advanced sexual framing, as well as getting into and managing open relationships.

“FANTASTIC! Soul is an incredible teacher. It is clear he has mastered the art of day game and is capable of “breaking things down” so that anyone interested can gain tremendously from one day of coaching with him. Soul helped me to focus on my approaches to make them more genuine, to understand the importance of building rapport, and excercises to help me build this skill, the need to show your emotions / feelings, and how to more effectively demonstrate higher value by threading it through the conversation. I highly recommend any opportunity a person can get to work with Soul.” – The Attraction Forums – click here.

VERCETTI on Body Language & Sub-Communications

Your Sub-Communications say more about you than any Routine or Story that you throw into a set. They are so powerful and fundamental to the seduction process that they can get you blown out, approached or invited into a set before you even open your mouth.

“V is a great guy to work with, knowledgeable, open, empathic and bursting with enthusiasm and joy of life.” – The Attraction Forums – click here.

CALABRESE on Inner Game and NYC Specific Game

How is meeting women in NYC different from meeting women elsewhere? Learn all the tweaks to optimize your results in the city!

“As a 1-on-1 coach, I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better person/friend. He talked to me not like he was talking to some random guy that was asking for help but as a real friend, genuinely interested in my ‘victories’.” - The Attraction Forums – click here.

BIG BUSINESS on Humor

Being able to make a girl laugh and enjoy herself is one of the most under-recognized elements of game. Big Business will share his insights on humor, comedy and how to be funny.

“I watched him in set and my jaw dropped with some of the things he was getting away with! He proved to me that you can be yourself and still have tight game. You can be anyone and do anything as long as you follow the rules of the model.” –  The Attraction Forums – click here.

LORD MEGA on “Best Practice” in Game

Ultimately, which mindsets and actions separate those who are massively successful from those who fail to reach their full potential? Find out why even most guys in the community fail to realize their dreams with women, and how you can be one of the few to become extraordinarily successful instead.

“Lord Mega is one of my best friends and my wingman for the last few years. We have travelled together and had adventures with women across London, Stockholm, and New York.” - Soul

This all takes place on July 19th from 7PM to 11PM at:

Pearl Studios NYC
500 8th Avenue, between 35th/36th Street
New York, NY 10018

To sign up, go here: http://lovesystemsnewyork.eventbrite.com/

For more info please write to: nekoberlin@gmail.com

We’re also looking for someone to record the event (the audience won’t be filmed) so if you’re in New York and have access to video equipment, please get in touch: soul@lovesystems.com