Life With Soul

Guys,

How would you like to hear three of the world’s top Dating Coaches share their best kept secrets for meeting, attracting, and dating beautiful women?

Being an instructor for Love Systems, the world’s premier dating advice company for men, is hard! We spend all our time creating and refining the best techniques to allow you to meet and attract the women you want… and we know that only a small number of the most dedicated students ever get to hear it.

So, for one day only, here’s your chance to hear some of the advice that we only share on our exclusive bootcamps and workshops – at a greatly reduced price!

I’ll be in New York to teach Day Game and host a special Mini-Conference on Sunday 31^st January.

It will be 4 hours of pure content: cutting-edge dating and attraction advice from myself and some of the most experienced, advanced guys around - for only $100. Sign up now:

http://lovesystemsnyc.eventbrite.com

This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to meet and learn from some of the world’s best dating coaches at a great price.

Here’s the program:

JEREMY SOUL on Day Game

Soul is the most widely recognized authority on Day Game right now, traveling the world specifically to teach in-field Day Game Workshops for Love Systems. In an exclusive preview of his Day Game Workshop, you’ll learn how to meet beautiful women in the daytime and during your day-to-day life,as well as how the Love Systems Triad fits into Day Game.

Soul is blowing up right now in the media and was recently voted in the top 10 Pick-Up Artists in the world by TSB Magazine: http://www.tsbmag.com/2009/12/30/top-10-puas-of-2009/2/

JEREMY SOUL on Sexual Escalation

In addition to his Day Game presentation, Soul will teach a second session on his other main area of expertise: advanced sexual framing, as well as getting into and managing open relationships.

“Think about the freedom you would feel if you could see a girl that you are genuinely interested in, approach her, have a great conversation, and create serious attraction whenever and wherever you want. The first step to getting to this point is to meet Soul.” – JD, Toronto

BIG BUSINESS on Humor in Pick-Up

Big Business is one of our top instructors based in New York. He kicked ass at last year’s Super Conference with his speech on comedy, and is returning to give you guys some more.

He’s also developing a dedicated Humor seminar, which will teach you everything you could ever want to know about getting funnier and channeling that to meet and attract women. In this talk, you’ll get an exclusive preview of the Humor seminar.

“His game is built on comedy in set and let me tell you- the dude is funny. Funny and QUICK man- I thought I was quick on my feet but he was off the charts. Great insight on improv and very clever SUPER EASY to implement techniques for deflecting shit tests and ensuring you never run out of things to say in set. At this point I’d gotten my moneys worth.” – GD, NYC

CARBEAU on Approach Anxiety

This one is for all you keyboard jockeys out there… finally, learn to get out of the house and get your approach anxiety nailed!

Carbeau, freshly promoted from last year’s Super Conference, is one of the latest additions to the elite Love Systems team. An expert in Day Game and overcoming approach anxiety, Carbeau is going to talk through his methods of dealing with it.

You can see his latest exploits in this detailed and thoroughly inspiring field report:

http://www.theattractionforums.com/field-reports/110634-day-game-snl-hb9-after-approach-up-if-you-dont-try.html

“An awesome guy with nothing but positive things to say.” – BK, Toronto

This all takes place on Sunday January 31^st from 7PM to 11PM at:

NYC Pearl Studios

500 8th Ave #4

New York, NY

USA

Sign up!

Hope to see you there.

Jeremy Soul

Guys,

Handing over to Braddock for some flirting tips.

Jeremy Soul.

How to Flirt With Women: The Art of Push/Pull

In my years of being a Dating Coach it’s become apparent that the most important and easiest way to flirt with women is to use what is called Push/Pull.

Basic Definition: “Saying something nice and dove tailing it with something mean or saying something mean and dove tailing it with something nice.”

On a more advanced level flirting using push/pull is the art of using both your physical touch/facial expressions and your words in unison. This could mean that you tease her about something or playfully call her out on something, yet while doing so you are smiling, you pull her in and hug her just before she gets mad to show her you are kidding. The guys I know who are the best with women when it comes to flirting, building attraction in the first encounter, building attraction in social circle settings, or maintaining a fun relationship are masters of push/pull.

To truly master push/pull you must learn to calibrate to the woman. Each woman has her own default push/pull blueprint. Some girls blueprint is that they respond best when the ratio is 5 pushes to every 1 pull. With these type of women, they will quickly get bored with a guy who tries to compliment “pull” to often. Even with these women, the pull must appear at some point or she will give up and lose interest assuming you are just a jerk.

Other girls default blueprint is just the opposite. If you want to properly flirt with these women, you will be best off giving light compliments “pulling” maybe 5 times for every one tease “push.”

However, even though each woman has her own default blueprint for when she first meets new guys, this blueprint can quickly change relative to your value. That same woman who would have felt massive attraction to a 5 pushes to 1 pull ratio, will not be receptive to a low value guy attempting such a ratio. However, the woman who responds better to 5 pulls and 1 push and would normally get upset if the average guy teased her to much, will have no problem being teased hard by a guy who she considers extremely high value in her social circle or a celebrity.

Basic Example of Push/Pull:

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Guys,

Word from Bonsai on Stripper Game. I’ll hand over…

Jeremy Soul.

How to Pick Up a Stripper

What a lot of people don’t know about stripper game is that there is actually a structure you can use. In the Strippers & Hired Guns seminar we teach the Polarity Model that Braddock and The Don came up with.

Below you can download a mind-map diagram that gives you a structure of stripper game. It is how I pickup strippers and it is almost exactly following the Love Systems Triad Model but applied to stripper game. So it has elements of the Polarity Model and the Triad Model.

Me being Asian, I love models. It gives you structure and phases you can learn piece by piece. It makes learning something new much easier and it is a lot easier to diagnose where you make mistakes. Hopefully this diagram helps a lot.

Feel free to distribute this, post it on your blog, emailing it your friends, whatever.

Bonsai

Christmas parties are incredible for meeting women. Try to go to as many as possible, simply because they are so much fun. People seem to be high on happiness and joy and full of festive excitement. Single women often get into the mood and feel like having a bit of romance under the mistletoe, so it’s a great excuse to get flirty with people and have fun!

Here are my top 10 tips for pulling at Christmas Parties:

1. Get involved as much as possible

The more you’re an integral part of the event, the more you’ll get a chance to meet and be seen talking to a lot of people, which elevates your social status at the party and makes you someone women would want to talk to.

2. Don’t leer at all the single ladies

Most single guys are on the prowl and checking out the possible “options” as soon as they walk in. Don’t be most guys – that’s a surefire way to ruin your pulling chances.

3. Don’t get drunk

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Hey Guys,

I’m going to hand over to Carbeau – his recent experience is great a great lesson in method and perseverance.

Jeremy Soul

Day Game SNL with HB9 after approach cock-up… “If you don’t try….”

I am not normally one for publicizing my in-field experiences – however, when I discussed this particular case with Soul, he urged me to write about it as we agreed that some of the lessons would be useful for people who are still in the early stages and still being significantly held back by fear of approach or “approach anxiety”.

I say “significantly” held back by approach anxiety, since the experience is normal and should even be enjoyed as part of the “rush” of the game. However, if you find yourself more often than not paralysed by fear such that you make up excuses and take no action, you may want to read on because it is a story that ended very well but began pretty badly – the lesson being this: if you don’t approach, you are only guaranteed to get NOTHING – if you do approach, you are guaranteed to get SOMETHING – it could be as little as getting feedback on how to improve the next approach or as significant as sleeping with the woman of your dreams….

Neil Strauss (a.k.a. Style) recently quoted Wayne Gretzky, a Canadian hockey player, as saying “you miss 100 percent of the shots you never take” – kind of obvious, and yet isn’t that what we do every time we make up some excuse for not opening a set? “I’m late” or “she looks busy” or “she’s with someone” or “I’m on my bike” – whatever the excuse, just cut the crap and just approach – and be sure of one thing – that if you don’t approach, you will probably never get a second shot (except within your social circle, in which case caution is definitely wise – please refer to Braddock and Mr M’s excellent postings for more about Social Circle Mastery).

In this case, I made a Day Game approach – however, as you will see, my approach was done in a hurry and actually ended badly – and yet, I still ended up sleeping with this HB9 after a couple of months of relatively low effort email game. This is why I decided to write this as a field report – since it is a good example of how you have everything to gain by approaching every time you see an attractive woman. Bottom line, this is a numbers game – by which I don’t mean that you approach 100 women and hope to get a number (though that may be a good place to start if you are just getting going), but that you should be screening for quality women that meet your standards and you need, therefore, to get comfortable approaching lots of women to filter OUT those that do not fit your criteria.

And even when you find someone that fits your criteria, don’t get hung up on just one woman – there is a possibility that she will flake on you, or that you might find her less attractive as you get to know her better – and during all this time, you will lose out on countless other opportunities that pass you by. And one further very important reason to not focus on one woman too early is that not only can women sense it when a guy that has options (a form of social proof / pre-selection that makes you much more attractive), but it also makes you feel more calm and relaxed, almost nonchalant, and this helps you to naturally structure your game in a way that works in your favour – not because you are super-analysing every interaction, but because you genuinely aren’t worried about the outcome because you know there are so many other women you can go out with.

Use Hopper-theory to gain a mindset of abundance

I have a group of wingmen I go out with regularly in Philadelphia and we use the paintball “hopper” analogy when we go out. We don’t necessarily aim to bring a woman back the same night, but we do always aim to add women to our “hopper” or our “pipeline” – a list of quality women we can invite to go out in the evenings. I will aim to have 6-8 quality women in my hopper at any one time (any more for me is tough to manage time-wise…) – I will then line up different evenings with different women depending on what I have planned – I know some women like classical music, others are more into dancing or theatre, etc. This then allows me to plan around an event, not around the woman – which is a natural disqualification mechanism. I will invite a woman from my hopper and, if she cannot make it, I simply go down the list. And since I do a lot of Day Game, I am able to constantly refresh and “upgrade” my hopper with higher and higher quality women – those that I do not find interesting or fun simply drop out and I stop calling them or inviting them out.

So in this case, even though the email game described below stretches over almost 2 months, this was just one of many women I was pursuing and was by no means my focus during this time – this gave my game a natural air of abundance – demonstrating that I am comfortable interacting with beautiful women and am not bothered either way about pushing for a date… The fact that I did not over-reach and look needy sub-communicated strong confidence which is a key attraction switch – I did not even bother to ask for her cellphone number until the night we met up almost two months after my first approach.

I have written the story below in chronological order so you can see the timings in between each interaction and who did or did not respond to whom and I have analysed the actual text from our email interactions using the framework of the Emotional Progression Model and the Love Systems Triad to show what is happening:

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I’ve been meeting a lot of guys recently who talk about “getting every woman they want.” Anyone who ever claims that they can get any woman they want probably isn’t as good with women as they think they are.

What are they good at is either a) marketing or b) identifying women that are going to be receptive to them and going after those ones.

Who has a 100% success rate with women? Show me that man, and I’ll show you a fake.  Whenever I think about dating, I always make comparisons with other areas of life (after all, everything is related; there are fundamental principles are at the root of everything). With that in mind, who has a 100% success rate in anything?

Let’s look at the world of technology for a moment. I’m typing this article on my Apple MacBook right now (from a Starbucks in Melbourne – life of a travelling dating coach, eh). I am ardent Apple fan, having converted from PCs to Mac earlier this year. Offer me the coolest, thinnest, supposedly most functional PC laptop in the world, and I’d say, “No thank you, I’m good with my MacBook.”

Does that mean that the PC laptop is a bad product? That there isn’t someone out there that would give their right leg for it? That there isn’t someone that that PC would make incredibly happy?

Apple and Microsoft are both incredibly successful companies, each with fantastic products that have allowed people the world over to do things we couldn’t decades ago. And they both have their loyal fan bases. But neither of them “gets” every customer.

It’s the same with dating.

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Are you tired of drunk pick up?

Meet Jeremy Soul, an expert at Day Game.

Metro went around town with him.

Read it at Metro (Swedish) 

New Day Game Workshop in Stockholm – January 16, 2010!

“Do you like brunettes or blondes? I already forgot,” says British Jeremy Soul, turning to two of his students. Jeremy works with the dating organization Love Systems, which markets seduction techniques. His specialty is so called “day game,” in which you flirt with women around the town during the day. Today they’re in Stockholm.

“The most important thing is to meet and talk to women in a way that they appreciate. If you’re not a club guy then you don’t have to pick up women in night clubs. I think it’s easier to talk to people on the street. It’s a more genuine conversation,” says Jeremy.

Suddenly one of the students stops in his tracks and rushes after a woman who just passed by. He taps her on the shoulder and delivers his line.

“It looks good; he’s more confident than before. Can you see her tossing her hair? That’s a good sign,” says Jeremy, who follows the pick up attempt from a distance.

Unfortunately, no phone number this time.

Just a few years ago Jeremy himself was a shy nerd who hardly even dared to look at a girl. Finally he got tired of it and got a handle on his life.

“It’s accepted to work out to get muscles but not to take control over one’s love life. We train people to become those charming and cool guys that you’ll find interesting. Is that really so weird?”

Is it okay if a girl tries to pick you up?

 “I don’t mind but I prefer to do the picking up myself. I want to lead the conversation.”

 5 Tips 

1. Appearance. Be mindful of what you wear and what it says about you.

2. Start the conversation with a compliment. For instance: “I saw you passing by and I like your style.”

3. Be interested. Find out who she is and what she does. Lead the conversation.

4. Body language. Act confidently and don’t be afraid to touch the person you’re talking to.

5. Get contact information to be able to meet later. Evenings are better suited for intimacy.

Fredrik Hansson

Translated by Girolamo

Hey guys,

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how to really make sure my clients keep practicing and keep improving their day game skills after taking one of my workshops.

Thinking back over the years, I asked myself, “What really helped me to get good?” Of course it was a ton of things and I couldn’t nail it down to just one thing. But if I had to ask myself what was the one thing that probably contributed the most, beyond my own motivation and finding the correct information, it would be:

Finding good wingmen.

There’s a bunch of examples from other areas of life where people have spoken about how you become like those around you. For example, it’s said that your income is typically the average of your five closest friends’ income. In business, it’s said to create a Mastermind group so you surround yourself with influential and powerful thinkers.

Finding good wingmen is the dating version of that. No matter how introverted you may be (and believe me, I really am), you can’t exist alone. Especially when you’re on an arduous journey (and often, getting good at dating can feel like just that), it really helps to know people on that journey with you.

First, they will give you motivation when you need. If you’ve arranged to meet your friend every Saturday to practice Day Game and you bail on him, you’ve let him as well as yourself down. If you both go out, hopefully you’ll give each other the push you need to start approaching women.

Second, it’s a lot more fun practicing with a friend. Just like when you’re at a bar or club, it’s nice to have your friends as a base to go back, it’s the same in Day Game. Makes it a lot more interesting to have company there in between approaches.

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Guys,

Love Systems in The Economist - the journo came along to Project Rockstar in London. She talks about Love Systems methods and ‘modern’ dating, and how the PUA scene leads the way.

Jeremy Soul.

Dating in the downturn

‘Well met by clublight’

Nov 5th 2009
From The Economist print edition

What online-dating sites are learning from pick-up artists

 In a dark underground room in central London, a group of men scribble intently in notebooks. They are in a class on “how to be funny” and they want to get it right. It has been a long day; they have already attended classes on teeth-whitening, self-esteem and personal finance as part of an intensive course on how to attract women. This evening they will put their work into practice as tutors assess their attempts to score dates in some of the city’s leading clubs.

 The programme is run by Love Systems, an American firm that charges up to £3,000 ($5,000) for three-day boot camps. Other outfits offer similar “pick-up” courses, though they remain relatively small and almost clandestine. The real money in the “dating industry” is online.

Corporate cupids such as eHarmony, an American firm that claims to be responsible for 236 weddings a day in the United States, and Meetic, a French company which recently bought the biggest online-dating firm in Britain, Match.com, serve a British market worth almost £100m, according to Mintel, a research firm. Another, comScore, reckons 5m people visited British dating sites in September, more than a year earlier. It is, they say, something of a recession boom.

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Check out this great blog posting by Bonsai – these points are important for Day Game and worth a read.

Cheers,

Jeremy Soul

One big fallacy I see when guys first start to learn how to meet women is that they think they can get every girl with the tools we teach them. This is simply not true. We teach you structured opportunities to meet and date more women, but never ever will you get every woman. Any guy who says he can teach you to get every girl is a fraud. It does not happen. I used to believe when I learned the “pickup artist tools” that I could get every girl, but soon enough I found out that’s simply not the case. What “having game” gives you is more choice of women to date but there will always be a group of women who will just not be attracted to you no matter what. The goal is to find compatible women and women who are open to date you. The following idea was first brought up on another lair board but first broken down on a bootcamp by dating coach Braddock. I’ve expanded upon the idea and dissected it further.

I’ve separated women in the dating pool in three groups in terms of compatibility. This has nothing to do with a woman’s beauty, but what some people call “chemistry.” Naturally there are women that are just not compatible with you (red). Then there is a pool of women that will like you just for who you are (green). The biggest group is the women who are indifferent (gray). The following diagram summarizes it.

Remember this diagram from your statistics class? You can see the dating pool as a bell curve. On one end of the bell curve, red, is the group of women that you will never get. No. Matter. What. Accept it. Some of these women won’t give you any time when you approach or you find out that a girl has all the turn-offs you have on your list. Either way, that pool of women is not for you.

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